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writes:I met this girl online and we did a lot of talking over the phone, seemingly having a good connection with her. We made plans to go on a date, meeting each other at a club. We had made the plans a week ago. We planned out where we’d meet and everything. The last time we talked was 5 days ago…I have been trying to email, chat or send her a phone message. She is not answering me back!Is she giving me the brush off?… The silent breakup before we even met? I’m not going to bother her if she doesn’t want to be called, but all I want to do is say hi and confer on last minute details. I’m thinking of not even showing up to meet her now, I don’t need to go through that embarrassment…. waiting around like fool. Why would she cut me off like that? If I can’t get in touch with her would I be right in not showing up? She did not give me the impression that I did or said anything wrong to her…..just this sudden silent treatment.Ladies…why do you do this….? If you were me what would you do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have been chatting and talking over the phonr for at least a week and a half. She gave me both her home and cell phones... I have never abused abused the priveledge of calling her constantly. I'm not a stalker, and never want to give that impression. If she doesnt want to communicate the numbers are burned of course.
I guess I will call it off, but this is dissapointing. I'll go elsewhere and meet women on my own. Face to face is a better way to meet people anyway. This why its best to have more than one option on your social calendar... transaltion: date more than one person at a time until you latch on to someone special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): You did not mention how long you two have been phone dating but it is a difference between talking on the phone and meeting in person. Has this been a whirl wind relationship? Have you been talking for less than a couple of weeks? If so, although she agreed to meet you, she may think your relationship is moving too fast and became uneasy and decided to bail incase you turned out to be weird or a stalker.
If not, she may be interested but got cold feet. She may be insecure about herself and fears once you see her you won’t think she is your “type”. She may be nervous about your relationship not flourishing once you meet in person.
Another thought is maybe she didn’t mean to become involved with someone. She could have been looking for the heck of it and stumbled across you. There could be a host of reason but unfortunately, unless she makes contact again, you may never know.
I would try to contact her one more time, after that let it go. I know you may feel emotionally connected to this person, but think about the long term here. Why spend energy on some who won’t call you back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): Yes she is and I wouldn't show up!
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