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writes:I've hit a stumbling block here. About two months ago, a friend and I went to a restaurant for dinner. The waitress, a very bubbly attractive younger girl captured my attention. I noticed she kept looking at me, giving the flirty smiles and paying us an unusually high amount of attention. At first, I thought she was interested in my friend, as they are closer in age, She spent time talking and telling all about herself. After dinner, I left the table to use the mens room. While I was gone, she started asking my friend if I was his father, and some other things about me. Before we left, she told me her name, and to ask for her next visit. OK, fine.A couple weeks later, we went back. she wasn't there. So, we had dinner and went on our way.The following week, we went again. I asked if she was working and was told that she just got off. I saw her walk from the back, we made eye contact, she gave me a big smile and said "hey, you came back." She told the hostess that she'd serve us. Again, very talkative and spoke of things you normally wouldn't expect. When it was time to leave, my friend left ahead of me. As I was walking away, she called me over to her. With a big smile, she said "thanks for coming, it was great to see you again".She pointed at me and asked my name. She put her hand up for a high five, I gave her one and said catch ya later. I gave her a wink, she kept smiling and told me the days and hours that she works.That was two weeks ago. Tonight, we went again. I had decided that I was going to make some sort of subtle move to carry our conversation out of her work place and into some sort of a more casual relaxed environment. Be it e mail, text or phone, I was open to whatever.When I walked in, I saw her immediately. She saw me, and there was that big smile! Throughout the dinner, she was again very chatty and attentive. I paid close attention to how she interacted with the others that she was serving, in comparison to us. Though she gave good service, the conversation was kept just as one would expect from a server in a restaurant. She kept coming to our table and talking. The next thing I know, she's talking and mentions her "boyfriend",,,, When she left our table, my friend and I looked at one another and said "BOYFRIEND"??? What the hell??? He said " man, I'm confused here, the way she's been the talking to you, I'd swear she was pouring herself on you!" When she came back, I kept things as if she hadn't mentioned him, I talked to her as always. When we were finished, I paid the check and we left.I'm trying to make some sort of sense of this. I realize that younger girls go for older guys for a wide range of reasons. With all she had spilled about her personal life, She fit the bill 100% I've dated younger women and realize that with the age difference, sometimes there is a communication barrier to overcome. As I said, I was prepared to make the next move to carry this out of her workplace. I was that confident that she and I were on the same page. If my friend hadn't been there to see what all had happened, I'd be open to the idea that I was seeing something that wasn't there. He and I bounced this around for a few hours and just got more confused. My questions. Can anyone shed some insight on this?Do I just say to hell with this and forget about her? Or, do I wait a week or so and go back and see how she reacts?Thanks in advance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): Meh, a lot of girls in relationships flirt.
She likes the attention and gets a kick out of it, and sure, maybe she likes the tips too but I'd consider that secondary. I think you weren't supposed to hear the part about the boyfriend. You seem to be well-spoken, and intelligent, so I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt here... I don't think you're necessarily misreading the flirting, just the reason behind it.
Then again, there's always a possibility that she's unhappy in her relationship and looking for something else. That's happened to me.
Do you really love the place? If not, leave your number on the next check with a small note. If she calls, wonderful... if she doesn't, never go back. At least I wouldn't =)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 Either you were good tippers or she is looking for a sugar daddy.
Next time , you go there for your dinner, get her phone number.
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