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writes:My partner of 17years left me. And I found out three weeks later she was with someone else. She has only tried to make contact one and I have not heard from her since. I think that she was cheating on me. What I cant understand is if she would be feeling any remorse or regret? I have been totally faithful all the time. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): no she i not feeling guilty and has no remorse. please do not expect any feelings of remorse from her. kindly move on. you deserve better. and if she ever does come crawling back, please think twice before you allow her in your life again. leopards do not change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009): Since she left you abruptly and without notice I don't think she is feeling any remorse. She's cut you loose. So sorry if you were emotionally invested in her but she wasn't feeling the same for you. Too bad, really.On the bright side, after a period of grief you'll realize you're now free to find another lover. Good luck. Choose wisely.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (10 August 2009):
 I can assure you there are moments of remorse and guilt, but there are also moments of elation and excitement over the discovery of someone new. I don't know what happens sometimes but after a woman has been with the same man for most of her adult life, it's like we go insane and suddenly one day go off chasing someone new. I think it's called a mid-life crisis and more and more women are having them, as opposed to the days when men used to run off with their 22 year old secretary. It could be a sign of the times, or a sign of the new female who comes into her own sometime after her kids are grown and half her life is over with. Give her some time and see if it passes. But after awhile you may need to just cut her loose and move on. I wish you the best, I know it probably wasn't that you did anything wrong, or that you weren't a wonderful man to her.
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reader, IamSoConfused +, writes (10 August 2009):
Speak to her about it if possible and yeah she probably felt terrible if she was cheating on you.
Some people manage to convince themselves that it is someone else's fault and so don't feel guilty.
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