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writes:I have been dating a girl for a little over two years, she is my first real realationship and also my first love. Through out the relationship we have had problems with our communication, but more than ever lately we have been struggeling lately. Also in the beggining of the relationship I made a mistake and cheated on her. Now two years later she has found out and she has broken up with me, she is ignoring my phone calls and not replying to my messages. It really eats me up inside knowing that I hurt someone like that, but at the same time is she being fair acting like this over something two years ago? I can admit that I made a mistake and I also know that I am a changed guy since that happened and I have not done it since. I really think this is the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with. What should I do? Let her be? Persue her and let her know how much I love her and I messed up? Give her time? Let me know what you think Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2007): I agree with Mitch. He's right, it doesn't matter when it happened and she can't ignore it. A relationship should be based on trust & love. She's probably hurt and worried that if you hid this from her, there could be other things you're not telling her. I know what you're thinking, maybe you didn't want to tell her because it would hurt her so much. Well, that shows that you really care for her, but the thing is, you're not her mother. She wants you to do things with her, not FOR Her.
For now, just give her some space. Then, you have to prove your love to her. Show her you mean business, and tell her things about yourself that probably that no one knows about. I hope this helps.
Good luck!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (2 April 2007):
 If your girlfriend told you that two years ago, after you started your relationship, she went out one night and ended up performing oral sex on a guy, would you be OK with that? It's been two years afterall......
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2007): I think its very fair you cant just do that and pretty much tell her to forget about it because it happend that long ago
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