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anonymous
writes:First, I want to thank you in advance for helping me out.So there is this girl that I think has a crush on me. It started about six months ago when she came by my work and hung out for a couple of hours. Before this there were no indications that she liked me. On this night she and I talked and started to get to know each other. Over the next couple of months she started to hang out a little and talk. She would even call me nicknames like doll and my favorite. But all this started to end after a couple of months.I guess I should say I work at one of the hang outs for her and her friends, and she has been coming by for years, so I knew her before this.She then did not come by for a while, but when she did about a month later she told me why she had not been by for so long. The nicknames stopped. But then she started to come by more often and we started to really get to know each other. Since the new year she has been coming by more and we have started sending texts to each other. Just about everytime I send her a message she sends a reply within a few minutes. On Valentines I sent her a message about her not having a date for night, she replied "Defiently Not. no boyfriend." I was working that night and she was with a friend who has a boyfriend when I sent the message. And just this past week she sent the same message "Defiently Not. no boyfriend." when I asked about something else unrelated.Now just a couple weeks ago she got a job working a the same place I work. Now she works on the other side of the building, so she doesn't come on my side very often, but I do have to go to her side a least a couple times a day. She does not work all the time, just part time, a couple days a week. While I work all the time so when she is not working she comes by with her friends to hang out. I found out that she had a job the day she started, so with no warning. When she sees me she smiles and waves. When we talk she listens and asks questions. She brings up things we have in common. Favorite resturants, sports teams, and the like. When we catch each others gaze we share funny faces or smirks.Now I must tell you the last bit of information. She is eleven years younger than me. She is a very beautiful girl. With one of the best smiles I have ever seen. On top of that she is funny, smart, and easy to talk to. Most people would say she is a very cute and good looking girl. I am attracted to her. Her personality is what has drawn me in to where I am now. I could spend hours just talking and laughing with her.With the age differnce I am confused at what to do. I feel if it is just a crush she will get over it, but what if it is something more. I may be reading to much into this and she is just a friend, which I would be totally ok with. But if there is more I would like to find out.Any and all help is appreciated, and thanks again for your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2012): Given your age, this girl is simply too young for you. She's a teenager yet and has a LOT of growing up to do. My advice is to treat this as a passing crush and it'll go away, if it's even a crush at all. It could be that she's just friendly.
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reader, curious1987  +, writes (19 March 2012):
 u don't say how old are ? 26 or 29? u say 11 age gap, so if she is 18 and u r 29, i would say it sounds like she really likes u. and u should tell her how u feel. how ever. if she is not 18, i would say be careful how u handle this. but tell her how u feel and u have nothing to lose. good luck
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