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writes:I cant stop thinking of cheating on my boyfriend .I had phone sex with another man and it turned me on ,totally!! .Is something wrong with me ? Is phone sex cheating ?I wanted to be in a open relationship and he said he will think about it ....Am I heading for disaster ?I don't know why i'm soo horny these days ,I feel like doing bad things with bad people .My sex drive is very high *high!I never felt this way, *ever .Because he cheated so much in the past I said to myselfmaybe I can too?I'm so confused with myself right now,dunno.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012): Lol you naughty little thing :)Of course it is.You stop before you get in trouble .Maybe you and you boyfriend should try new things together since you both seem very horny .
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reader, lovelybuzz +, writes (31 January 2012):
lovelybuzz is verified as being by the original poster of the question You guys are right,thanks for telling me how it is .Your honesty means a lot .
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012): Wow, Not sure what to think here. I'm not sure I agree with the other posters. I think phone sex if it becomes personal and you 'think' you might actually want to meet the guy would be cheating.If it's just for 'fun and sexual release' I'm not so sure if I think it's really cheating.I guess the 'real' answer here is what does your boyfriend think? You have to talk to him, not to admit that you are doing, but to see what he says about it. That will define cheating based upon his answer and what he expects from the relationship.BUT, I think the underlying issue here is that he has cheated on you, so you are 'cheating' on him via phone sex. It's not physical contact, so I think you think you are somehow getting even without 'actually' doing it.You do probably don't belong together. 1st, he cheats. That should be a relationship breaker right there. 2nd, now you're seeking emotional or sexual release from other guys, even if it's only phone sex.As for being horny all the time, then if your relationship isn't satisfying you sexually, then it's doomed no matter what. Re-think your relationship with this guy.
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reader, Jaydilla11  +, writes (31 January 2012):
i think you are really going down the wrong path and 2 wrongs to not make a right... your relationship needs work and not more cheating if you cannot take the fact he cheated then u should move on and keep your freakishness going on single and ready to mingle
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 January 2012):
 Phone sex is cheating.
Did he cheat on you in the past? I wonder if this isn't a sign that he isn't the right man for you?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (31 January 2012):
 Generally in a monogamous relationship yes, unless you have some special agreement otherwise. Just because it really turns you on doesn't mean it's OK. Either you have to trust him not to cheat or leave, not cheat to get even.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 January 2012):
 Golden rule is this, what you can't do in front of your partner or tell your partner as far as interactions with someone it's cheating and I think you know it.
Do you remember how it felt when he cheated on you? So why the double standard? Why can you cheat when you were hurt that he did it? Two wrongs will make a right? Tit for tat?
You can use HIS actions to excuse your own. You didn't have to stay with him after you found out. That was your choice.
Stop lying to yourself and put your big girl panties up.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (31 January 2012):
 cheating starts with the mind, thoughts are the beginning, then progression starts to happen. is phone sex cheating , yes. if it involved someone besides your boyfriend yes its cheating. besides you would not be asking if it is cheating , if you did not feel some guilt. heading for disaster maybe, crossing the line ( the grass is greener on the other side ) temptation, curiosity , getting back is the beginning. your boyfriend cheated so much in the past. his cheating was wrong, that does not make it right for you to cheat also. it will leave you feeling guilty. careful not to cause damage to your relationship.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 January 2012):
 anything you can't won't or don't tell your partner is cheating your partner and cheating on your partner
did you tell him before you did it you were doing it? NO?
yep you cheated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012): Phone Sex, is it cheating? YEP
It turned me on- because it was lying and being deceitful and sneaking around that made it so 'delicious' so yes, I'd say there is something wrong with you- its called you are dishonest and ready to use others for your enjoyment and don't care about doing what is right.
Because he did it; you'd think you would know what pain it causes. You can't justify a thing you are doing and what you are doing isn't right.
It was wrong of him to do that to you.
End it and move on and do you best to live honestly- you'll be happier in the long run.
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reader, NFenix +, writes (31 January 2012):
Yes,
anything that involves your flirting with another guy or being intimate with another guy is cheating. Unless he says he is cool with it otherwise.
Him cheating on you isnt right; It sounds like you need to make a decision to stay with him or leave him.
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (31 January 2012):
 wow lets skip to the part where you said he's cheated on you.
If you are thinking like that, like you can do it back then you're turning it into a game. A relationship is based on trust and here it seems like there is none.
You need to figure out what you want. He hurt you, but two wrongs don't make a right. If you hurt him,you'll be just as bad love.
You seriously need to consider what you want from the relationship.
And in reply to the question, phone sex is definitely cheating!!
You need to cut yourself out the massive web you're churning up here.
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