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writes:My bf and I have been together for 15 months almost to the day. Our courtship was awesome and we have great chemistry--plus, he's my bestest friend. God, I used to look back at our time together and just be marveled... The first guy to twirl me around, to dip me and kiss me, to do sweet things for me. To call me beautiful. To make me believe in myself. To talk to me about my mild case of OCD that flared up last year.The first guy...ever. Everything. It was so intense, so exciting, so passionate. But then, inexplicably, I have been feeling a sort of numbness toward him lately. It started about two months ago and won't let up. Kissing him still feels electric sometimes, but there are also bouts of me feeling annoyed at...nothing. The excitement is gone. It's been stressful lately for a lot of reasons and I'm pretty sure I'm at least mildly depressed, but I was before too. So this is...new. I could really use some help. Is this normal? Is it just a fading spark that needs to be nurtured? Incidentally, for the past few days I've found myself developing somewhat of an admiration for a guy I had a slight crush on when I was falling for my bf. He's a good friend and, I don't know, we click. We're a lot alike. Then again, my bf and I are, too. Big time. I just keep wondering if maybe there's something with my somewhat of a crush on my friend and maybe it's a sign. Any advice = appreciated!
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (6 October 2010):
 It is very normal for new relationships to fade after time, there are some words to describe it "the honeymoon", "crush" or "infactuation" where everything is wonderful and nothing can go wrong.
Once thats over your left with seeing faults, now is the time to know if its true love or not.
It maybe possible to respark your relationship by doing new and fun activities together, if your feelings for him are completley lost then maybe its time to move on and try again.
If your depressed for other reasons, work, education, money etc... then look at getting help for that.
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