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*emzybabex
writes:Hi sore your comment on a similar comment so figured you might be a good person to help me. I’ve been with my bf two and a half years now. Sometimes I would get jealous over other girls but I tried not to let it get to me. One day after we had been going out over a year I decided to read through his msn chat logs. I hadn’t found anything that upset or annoyed me until I only had about 5 conversations left. Then on one he was asking this girl if she was a virgin and if she liked sex etc. It really hurt me and I was so annoyed. Then as i read through more chat log conversations I found one that really hurt me. It started off with a lot of flirting, and him asking the questions about sex. Then they stopped talking... In another conversation he said to her in Spanish something the girl asked what it said and he said “I want to lick your p---y” Then the girl said “you have a girlfriend” he replied “yes I know but I’m so f--king horny” then he began trying to persuade this girl to do stuff with him. He kept saying stuff like “just think of my hard c--k up your p---y” and she was replying “omg that would feel so nice”... i burst into tears and felt so sick. I found this on Valentines Day 2007 so about a year ago. Reading through it was obvious the girl wasn’t interested she was just going along... after a bit she said “I can’t do this you have a girlfriend” he replied with “yeah I know but she doesn’t mind as long as its got person to person”. Then he finally took no for an answer but started to slag me off saying i was a bit possessive and stuff. I had never felt so hurt in my life. I trusted him and everything i thought we were closer than anyone else in the world. On that day I confronted him about it he told me it was him messing around to see how far the girls would go. Thinking back I don’t no why I believed him! But i did. Then when I was at home i read through a conversation of me and my boyfriend, and just before the time of them conversations he was asking my to cyber with him but i refused. It was then I realised he had lied to me. After weeks of heartache I forgave him. He has never done anything like this since (not that I know of). Now we live together I’m always with him. He doesn’t really talk to girls and when they write on his homepage he doesn’t reply. I try to get over it but its hard. I don’t think i will ever forget it. Will this ruin our relationship? Should i have forgive him or left him? i find it hard to trust him.
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reader, iAintYourAunt  +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Being young gives me hope for you. I'm assuming he's about the same age so it's possible he realizes the mistake and has matured. Hopefully, this is the case.
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reader, xemzybabex +, writes (15 February 2008):
xemzybabex is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou very much looks like am going through nothing compared to you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): Tell him it bothers you when he does that. yeah, its wrong what he's doing but as long he doesnt act out on it physcially. Dont let it ruin your relationship.
My fiance cheated on me and now the other woman is pregnant with his baby. I left him for that and the trust will never be the same again. This is something that will stay with me forever.
You shouldnt leave ur man for something like this. If he continues, talk to him that it bothers you and see where it goes. Communication is key.
Good luck!
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