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writes:I have been in a gay relationship for 1year, and my bf has been going thru a difficult time in terms of his boss cutting down on staff, pay cuts etc, so we have not had the life of luxury we once had as we are both ;living from pay cheque to pay cheque.His apartment has been robbed several times. He has issues with anger now and has lots of anger towards some people has a real short temper, and gets angry at anymore if they make the simplest mistake or say something wrong, and he insults people.Last month it got too much and he was taking his anger out on me and verbally abusing me and insulting me and our flat mate. It got to a point now where even the slightest thing would go wrong he would flip that I would get scared of saying something wrong or making a mistake and start swearing and insulting people and making the situation worse than it was.Last weeks he said that he needs space and needs to see a doctor about his anger issues and that he is becoming a monster and he has seen people distancing themselves from him, and the final straw was when he verbally attacked me and hit me, and that was when he realised he has a problem.Said he thinks we need to take some time apart and he needs to find himself and he is doing this so that he does not become a person that he hates and he is doing this because he loves me and has admitted he has a problem, and that he loves me more than anything but needs to get help and that the separation would do us good.I want to help him, but don't know how, he has stopped calling me, we no longer chat on msn and seems like he has taken himself out of the public eye.I am worried about him as I have moved back with a friend of mine temporary for things to get better.Will they get better, mates of mine say that when someone says they need space to find themselves or deal with personal issues that the next step is complete separation.If someone claims to love you and you know they really do do they come around and will things get better and the relationship become strong again?Thanks.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 If someone claims to love you and you know they really do do they come around and will things get better and the relationship become strong again?
Generally that is true but there are exceptions.Not every case is the same.
When a thing is gone , you will only realize the value of it. Thus if you can reconcile again , it would bring on a deeper appreciations and the relationship can become stronger.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (1 June 2010):
 why do you still love someone who has hit you and insults you? that should be the question. clearly you love him but his behaviour is no good for you and you are probably going to be happier in the long term without an abusive partner. did he take a lot of drugs?
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