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writes:I've been dating a guy for a month now. Everything is going great. His awesome, I have no complaints. This has been the best month I've had in a very long time. I know its only been a month but I have very strong feelings for him. I think I could be falling for him and I truly feel that he could be with the one. I guess I want to know if its normal for me to feel this so soon. can I truly be falling in love in just one month? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 April 2014):
 I agree with YouWish.
It's a state of mind. It's a GOOD thing though. I would honestly enjoy the buzz, but be aware that it takes ACTUALLY knowing a person to truly LOVE them. You don't KNOW a person after a month.
I too would slow down, just a tad.
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reader, LuvHurts +, writes (8 April 2014):
YouWish does have a good point but i truly believe it is based on the couple. I can honestly say it is normal to fall in love in just a month. if you know what you want in a man and the guy your dating has most if not all the qualities you are seeking than it is very possible to be in love in just a month. perhaps you have the qualities he is seeking as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2014): I think You Wish is right, I got this with my boyf. Oh cringe! I tried telling him I loved him in the first month when I'd had a few drinks on me and he stopped me. He ended up telling me he needed some space coz I got so clingy. SO embarrassing! But still together now , living together and new puppy after year and a half AND in love! :-) take your time real love will come! 3
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 April 2014):
 SLOWWWWW down! The "love" feeling you're feeling is actually called limerence. It's an involuntary state of mind - an almost uncontrollable state of attraction that has you thinking about him morning noon and night. Butterflies, euphoria, near-obsession, completely intense, all of those things are awesome, but none of which are love.
Enjoy the feelings, but don't make decisions based only on them. After a month, you cannot possibly know if he's "the one". There is no substitute for the amount of time it takes to know and love and trust someone.
Slow it down some, because limerence unchecked can lead to bad decisions, possible clinginess, and "flaming out" of the relationship. In limerence, you are blinded to faults, possible red flags, and reason.
Do not tell him you love him or are falling for him. Don't use the L word, period. Feel the limerence because it's intoxicating, but keep both eyes open. Don't let your life get out of balance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2014): Yes, you can be 'Falling' in love. However, deep true love may take a little bit more time. Good luck!
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