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writes:So I'm back posting again after a month since my ex (20) and I (22) broke up. Let me say it has been a really hard month too... To recap, he broke up with me because he realized he wasn't ready to be in a relationship because he realized how immature and how much more he needs to get done in his life (finish school, get a job, etc) in order to treat me the way I deserve to be treated. He wants to be with me but can't give me what I deserve due to all of other stresses in his life...After the break-up we continued to briefly converse primarily via the internet but a couple of times on the phone (mainly my initiation). During one of the conversations he promised me that he would visit me after my operation. I had my operation this past Tuesday and that Friday he and two of his friends came to visit me (he needed a ride). It had been exactly a month to the day since we ended things. It made me really happy to see him, and him fulfilling his promise because I hold them to heart. When they came over we played some pool, watched some things on the internet, ate some pizza and watched a movie. They actually stayed for a lil more than 6 hours. During the movie my ex and I shared a couch and held hands and then began to cuddle/hold each other. During that time he spelled out on my hand that he missed me and continued to stare at me and tell me how much he misses me and how he gave up so much when he ended things with me. He continued to say how he wished he was more mature and so on. As well as how he couldn't get me out of his head. He kissed me on my cheek and I took a deep breath and told him it was to hard. He said sorry and I kissed him on the cheek so he could understand which he did... We both commented on how nice it was to be cuddled together and he continued to mention all the little things he missed about us. Keep in mind this is all happening with the two friends on the other couch. Then when my head was on his shoulder he told me 'I just want you to be healthy' and I responded 'I just want you to be happy' and he said 'I just want to be happy with you.' Prior to that intense conversation, we had some time alone in the kitchen where he informed me about his school situation and how he is making progress and is doing better but is not there yet. I told him that I am still waiting for him and am happy for him. So right before they left, we had our final conversation. We talked about how good it was to see each other and I apologized for how I treated him, that it made him uncomfortable (I was a sugar mama and he wanted to spoil me but didn't have the means). He said no, that was silly it just made him realize that he needed to better himself for me. Also said that he could give me those things but would destabilize the rest of his life. He poked at whether I had met any guys and was like I want you to be happy but preferable without finding someone else. I laughed knowing he still has my heart. He kept on saying how he wants to get a home with me and take care of me but needs time, which I am giving him. I kept on telling him I understand which made him feel awkward because of how well I know him, which made him remember how much he can open up to me and how he still is head over heels. I said I love you and he said it back, we gave each other a big hug and I escorted him and his friends to the door and thanked them. His birthday is tomorrow and I gave him his present (which I had bought when we were together) and he left it at my place and texted me he would get it darling... He wants me to hang out with him and his friends (some of which are mine too) on his birthday and I said I would but I conversed with him today and he said he didn't know when he wants me to come (keep in mind I need to plan in advance since I don't have my own car). We both are still in love with each other and want to be in each others' lives (especially since he's one of my only friends where I live now- back home with my dad) but I am just confused. My question (dun dun dun) is my waiting pointless? What are your thoughts on my current situation?(a guys perspective would be extra useful)
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (22 December 2008):
Head games at it's best.
Life is too short to wait for someone. You made it pretty obvious that you wanted him back. He gave you false hope in return.
"Just wait a little longer and you'll have me again." Why? Why can't you have him now? School? Come on, a relationship can deal with that.
Immaturity? Money? It's obvious that you don't care about that and you just love him.
So why does HE leaves because of it?
If he really love you, he would still be with you. He set you free for a reason.
"You're too good for me" If there's love, why would it matter?
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