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writes:i have a three year old daughter. soon to be four. shes such a sweetie and she helps me around the house, helps me grocery shop , she even helped me plant my garden :). im due for my second child in less than a week. And latley its like she'd rather be watching tv or spending time with her dad playing video games. im starting to feel neglected :/is this normal for a child this age to push their mom away? im 22 , and i have NeVeR spent one night away from her since she was born . i never felt the need for a break. im married to her father and we hardly ever argue so its not like theres tension there. i was just wondering if any one else had went through this? and why she'd be pushing me away?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 April 2012):
 She's getting to the stage where she wants to be with Daddy... and sees you as a rival. IT's normal.... it's part of her healthy pyscho-sexual development.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2012): I have two boys 2yrs and eleven months. My older son never really got jealous of his brother. He kisses him plays with him and gives him bottles. He also tries to help change him. Its pretty cute actually. But i think your daughter is simply growing up and becoming just a bit more independent. Shes exploring her surroundings, taking up father daughter time, and she sounds like a normal to be four year old. But dont worry when she falls down and gets a boo boo you are the first one shell go to. Both my boys call for dada when they are happy and up for rough housing. But when they get hurt, or hungry, or just want to snuggle and be nurtured they call for me. Your daughter will be the same way. Just include her when you are caring for the baby and make special days for just your daughter and dad can watch the baby. Congrats and goodluck. Have a healthy baby and quick labor.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 April 2012):
 I don't have children myself, but I don't think this is something to worry about. It could be because you are pregnant and your belly is big, perhaps she knows what is about to happen (and can see it) and isn't sure of what to think about it?
I wouldn't worry too much, she is growing up, and children will change as they grow older.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): Hey ... who exactly is the grown-up here? Sorry to say that, but ... she is just spending time with her dad. That's nice. And she will have to do that anyhow when you have a baby to look after.
The problem isn't with her. It is the video games, because they are addictive and anti-social. And I'm sorry to say it, but you have a strange response to this ... feeling 'neglected'? Is she supposed to pay you attention and make you feel loved??? She is three years of age. Don't expect so much of her.
My daughter just turned four. She is adorable, but she also is very self-sufficient. When I see her going off with her dad or siblings, or a friend, I just feel glad that she is happy to enjoy her life, rather than being always tied to me. I love seeing her spread her wings. And she always comes back to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): Maybe if ur due for a girl that's why. She doesn't really want to be around the baby. She is growing up out of the way for the next child. Nothing deliberate, just natural. Don't get too emotional about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): She's perhaps jealous of your next child. Its natural for parents to become absorbed in a new baby and so your child might have started to feel jealous if all you now talk about is the new baby (I don't know if that is the case but it is a common thing to happen). If this is the problem then talking to your child about what is bothering them or how their day is or what interests them should re-engage her to you as its about her and not the new baby.
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