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writes:I think my BF could be gay please help i dont know what to do!When i first met my BF i actually thought he seemed quite gay but he wasnt and i eventually fell in love with him we have been together for over three years. every now n then ppl mistake him as been gay or he gets chatted up but we both just laff it off. i know he loves me! Hes the best bf ever! We get on soo good and he spoils me rotten. a few weeks ago he bought me a dildo before i even got the chance to use it he asked if he could suck it coz it was kinky i just went along with it. everything was fine and my boyfriend loved it. Last nite a was giving him a blow job when he asked if i would put the dildo up his bum! I did as i was in quite a sexy mood but my bf loved it he cum so quick and he now cant wait for 2night to do this again! Please help! What should i do? DO you think i should ask him? DO you think hes gay? or am i just being paranoid?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): I just wanted to say thank you so much for your answers i know that u are right really i was just panicking. He is the perfect bf and were always adventurous in the bedroom so its probly just him being kinky. Thank you for putting my mind at rest.
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reader, epifanatical  +, writes (1 September 2008):
 lots of men LOOOVE anal stimulation sweetee and your bf isnt any different.. it doesnt mean he is gay.. you say he loves you and spoils you and his the best bf ever.. so where does your doubt come from?.. let him enjoy his pleasures.. at least he is doing it WITH you instead of outside.. doesnt that make you happy?..
just open your mind a lil hun.. there is nothing wrong about using a dildo on him.. its just another way to experiment.. it sounds like you enjoyed it too??
also.. a guy might have gay fantasies but that doesnt make him gay.. in reality the idea might repluse him but he enjoys the fantasy trip.. it sounds like you guys have a lot of trust in your relationship.. so much so that he had the guts to come out and want to try this with you.. most guys keep this sort of thing inside because they are afraid they will be labelled gay.. even by their partners.. so for most men its a secret that they keep to themselves and indulge with on their own.. still doesnt make em gay.. best of luck with this :)
absolutely nothing to worry about hun.. relax and enjoy the trip with him.. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): He might be strongly bisexual, but if he's having sex (of various kinds, especially intercourse) with you, enjoys it and comes back for more, then he's into women. Homosexual men don't get aroused by women; that's why they're gay. I agree with Aunty Em, the kinks he's enjoying with you don't mean he's gay, or really bisex for that matter - he's just playing with you with very expanded boundaries on what pleases him.
Would it be threatening to you if he *did* turn out to be bisex? From the tone of your post, I'd say it's time for a calm discussion.
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (1 September 2008):
 I think you've put two and two together to come up with six. You said yourself that your boyfriend has been and is often mistaked for being gay because of the way he is. Oh well! You know he's straight.
But, the final thing that did it for you was his anal penetration fetish, I guess because that's how gay men have sex? That shouldn't have swung your vote. Straight men are known to like it up the bum too! It's fine. As long as you don't find him in bed with another men - that's when you have a cause for concern.
If you still feel a little worried, ask him cautiosly (in case not to offend him) out and put your reasons for it forward.
Good Luck.
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