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writes: Hello Everyone,I recently have been sort of this online relationship with a girl in Germany. I am 19 years old in Australia. She is 25. She has always told me she wants to come to Australia and live there with me.Anyhow recently or some sort, say 2-3 weeks? or 2 I think. I noticed her talking habits have changed on our online conversations. She used to explain a lot of things and answer my questions. When I joke with her she would reply, but nowadays she tells me she cant handle that I always ask her "what are you doing?", "how was your day"?. Ok I understand it gets annoying if I asked that each day, but last time she used to explained in quite detail, now she just says a few words...and I have to always ask if she is alright...she says "Im fine!!! everything is ok =)". And last night when I asked, do you want to head back to chatting on ICQ (I taught her how to use msn because ICQ seemed to crash a lot). She said "no I don't want to". I then said "it is because I am here, you prefer msn?", she replied "no". Last time she would laugh, or smile and such. We did say we love each other (which I know can't be always true in an online relationship) in the past a lot. But recently she seems not interested or bored of me. I ain't rude or quiet, I talk a lot of things, now all she does is reply a few words or if I am lucky some sentences which sound like she was forced to write it. I did ask in the past whether I was bothering, or whether I should keep quiet, she said no. I asked if I wasn't interesting anymore is it? No. The other night, she said she had to go outside (at around 11:15pm), I said alright take care! Yet she is still online on msn for nearly 35-45 minutes later. I did ask about 20 minutes later "lol still around?", "are you there?", no replies. I logged off, came back to see (appearing offline) around 12:10am...offline. I also feel she thinks I am a stupid guy, and she thinks she can play around with me and use me (because I am in Australia). Yet I don't know if she was doing something, she would have at least replied and said "oh ya, just quickly finishing an email reply"...nothing. We did have a little argument about asking her what she was doing and how was her day questions. She tells me I worry to much and that I don't trust her. We used to email a lot and had tons of interesting times and fun on ICQ chat. Yet a few time in the past she has said "if I dont want to talk to you anymore, I will say so". I mean is she trying to confuse me and just make my life bad or something? I am thinking of just ignoring her and breaking up...yet I don't know if she is really busy or she has ran out of things to talk about with me online. I have decided to act as someone else using one of my very old past emails, with a different name etc and sending it to one of her emails. I wrote in there that I was someone looking for a friendship and a possible long term relationship...and that I was in Australia as well and if she was single. She did say that if someone or her friends asked her if she was single, she would say no, because she considered me as her bf. In addition she doesnt want to change her msn nickname either...its just plain with her first name only. I asked her if she could ask something in there...she didnt want to. I don't know, what does everyone think? Am I been fooled around? or she really has nothing much to talk about...I am a super caring, happy, loving, friendly, shy guy...yet I feel girls just take advantage of me. I met her through a penpal site as well. I asked long ago "do you see the two of us together?", she said yes many times...- Confused, stressed person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe hasn't come online nor email me. I think yeah its best that I move on in my life. It was tough...but I think its best I let her go if she doesn't want me anymore.
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reader, VMLBabyDoll  +, writes (28 August 2008):
Well you cant say you didnt try, but im glad you did hun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry but I want to update for you. I did give her space. I did it many times. I mean she even told me she liked that I was online each day.
Its just that I found out why...she said she didnt feel it was right of her to have me. She said I should deserve someone better. As much as I tried to tell her she always deserved me...she wouldn't budge.
She even told me it was not because she wanted to be with someone else. I mean she said we can be friends instead...saying been your partner...she felt she wasn't great. I tried to fix that...no she wouldn't listen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): Hi just want to say i think maybe you should back of a bit, sometimes people need space, if she really likes you she will put in the effort to contact you. and if she doesnt then you know that you were just a bit of fun for her. x
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reader, VMLBabyDoll +, writes (18 August 2008):
geez im not sure if i could be of any help but does it help if i say. i know how you feel im i the same exact possition your in, i've got an online boyf....was great the first 2 months, then to a basic friend like conversations, now he's not talking to me. Try talking to her about this see what she says, be carefull too!
-VMLBabydoll™
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