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writes:My mum always gets really angry at me when she thinks I'm answering back, when I'm not-I just answer her 'rhetorical questions', and also, when I look away, she says I'm rolling my eyes, when I'm really not! This makes me so annoyed, but I don't hate her or anything- I think she hates me- she calls me slow and stupid and selfish- when I dont share something with the family that I have earned or won. Even if she doesnt actually want to have any of whatever I bring home- she says that sharing stuff is showing your 'heart'. Once, when one of my sisters stole something from my room, she was like, 'you should have put it downstairs with the other things, blah blah selfish etc., all of them should have been stolen cos' you were selfish!' and she seems more angry that I kept it upstairs, in my own room, and not downstairs, than at my sister for stealing it. She thinks me and my sisters are too protective of our own stuff and should share more. We nearly always do. This is a really weird case and sometimes I think my mum is weird for thinking about those tiny little things- how can I stop her from hating me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): I can totally relate to you. My mum is always moaning at me for silly things, I help out with housework etc but whenever I don't, automatically she expects me to offer to help (this is unfair, right?) I tell her that she only notices the things I don't do, not the things I do and have done. When we get into an argument it's her that usually starts it (usually over nothing important) and i'm the one talking like the adult while she's shouting! :S I think my mum is depressed and this is why she's hard on me, i've tried talking to her about it but she doesn't really respond. Maybe your mum is having a hard time and is taking it out on you? Or as the previous two said, going through the menopause, or a divorce? I hope you two - and your sister - can work it out and get along better. I'm hoping to be able to get along with mum better one day too lol =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): I am sorry you are feeling not the love and nurturing from your Mom. I think first of all --- you have truly recognize ---- that your Mom is human (and all of these nasty things are all about her and not you) so try to not take it personal (TRULY EASIER SAID THAN DONE I know :) Is your Mom and Dad (still married); is she possibly having things in her life (going on ==== work, divorce =--- that is making her take it out on you instead??? She could suffer from low self esteem and for that puts it down on you. None of it are fair to you, but at least you will know you are MORE THAN LIKELY VERY MUCH LOVED BY HER --- just something going on due to her own shortcomings.Good luck my friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): She could be going through "the change" (menopause). My mom was a nut when this happened....we called her the dragon lady!
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