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writes:My mum has a boyfriend, who she has been with for about 4 years now. But, for about a year I have noticed that she has been on dating sites. Sometimes I'd go on the computer and see that she has the website up, and the chats so I can see what she's been saying to these people! It's nothing dirty, but it is flirty, and earlier on today I read that while I was on holiday she went and met someone from this site!Also, last year I found videos of my mums boyfriend as a transfestite on youtube! At first I didnt know it was him, cause he looked soo different, but then I reconised him and his house! I know my mum knows aswell because she also goes on transfestite websites, but I don't think she is one.But I do know she knows that He's a transfestite. Cause I went on the computer and she was signed on his youtube account. Basically guys, I want to ask if you think I should confront her about all of this? Or just one of them? Or just leave it completely :\Ive known this for so long and I dont know who to go to, it's really messed me up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2009): My mum has been doing some weird stuff lately, kind of like yours. She has been single for more than 10 years and i think that got to her.
As long as she is safe, she will be alright. Keep an eye on the matter. You dont want to act to soon an make a fool of yourself.
My mum is nearly 50. Immagine the embarasment when I will have to brake it out to her she is not a 18yrs old hippy.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (5 January 2009):
you can't really do anything. your mums private life is non of your business. i know that sounds harsh, but you can't tell your mum how to run her life. you just have to stay out of it.
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reader, core_confusion +, writes (5 January 2009):
 I agree with TELLULAH about keeping out of it. That's probably the best plan of action. If you are really determined to talk to you Mum about it, you could bring up that you have seen the messages on the screen and anre uneasy about them.
As for you Mum's boyfriend being a transvestite, there's nothing really wrong with that. If you Mum is accepting of it then that is all that really matters. You dont say how you feel about your Mums boyfriend in general but I would say that it is far more about the person than anything else. If he is a nice person, treats your Mum with respect and you get on with him, that is the most important thing. Private lives are designed to be exactly that.
You should always be able to talk to your Mum and be open about how you feel - dont bottle anything up, but if she is happy with things as they stand then the best thing you can do is focus on other things.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (5 January 2009):
 Quite honestly babe, I think you should keep your nose out of it all. It sounds like a right old mix up, and should be on Jerry Springer.
Unless they are making you feel uncomfortable, then really theres not a lot you could do anyway. I will say though, that I bet if most children went through their Mum or Dads private stuff, probably 6 out of 10 would find something embarassing.
Wont say what my mate found, but she couldnt look her Mum and Dad in the eye for months.
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