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writes:I need advice. I am married 11 years now. My husband had stopped kissing me shortly after our marrage. Always has a male friend around Who never dates an never been seen with a womanMy husband expermented with me on several occasions with dildos and vibrators normal untill he was Having me insert them in his anas and liking it Done hard! Now after time sex has gotten down to None unless I agree to a bj. I have even noticed His anal hole largly open and he puts his legs behind hid head Practicly begging me to do his anus My question is he bi or does some guy like that?
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reader, Too Sensitive +, writes (8 December 2008):
If I were you I'd certainly be wondering the same thing. My fiance seems to like it when I am in that area, but that is not the same as anal sex for him...I am merely pleasuring his G-spot, as others here have mentioned.
What has me concerned most about what you've written is the fact that he likes the anal sex at such an intense level; his girlfriend-less male friend hangs around so much; and the biggest concern of all is that he no longer kisses you, nor seems capable of conventional sex with you. That shows a lack of emotional intimacy on his part. Does he pleasure you at all sexually, or is it always you doing things for him?
As difficult as it will be to bring up the subject, I think you need to discuss your concerns with him and give him a chance to talk. If he refuses or you think he is lying, go with your gut. If his behavior is unacceptable to you, then you have to do what you have to do for your own well-being.
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reader, Scared... +, writes (8 December 2008):
My husband of 17 yrs is the same way.. Loves anal except he is wanting 2 wear womens clothes and a wig now while I use the strap-on..Your not alone..I've often wondered if mine is gay..but he is with me all the time except 4 work..I am going 2 try and ask him the big ? "R U Gay" soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2008): Oh please so what gay men are biologically different making them enjoy anal sex but straight men made to not like it!!??? A man's body is same gay, bi or straight and the fact is anal sex can be pleasureable. The fact that your husband likes it doesn't mean a thing towards whether he might be gay or bi. I am not saying he isn't, and in fact it sounds like he might be, however the anal sex bit isn't conclusive of anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): I don't think he is gay, its just very pleasurable to him. Many men and women do like to be stimulated there. My husband of 7 years loves to be touched there, licked there, ect..and I am 100% sure he isn't gay! Different strokes for different folks, right? You know him better than we do, what does your gut instinct tell you?
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reader, questions64 +, writes (18 October 2008):
questions64 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit's not just my husbands sexually likes that has disturbed me.
He has stopped kissing me and no longer wants sex with me
He always has an excuse and he is always with his guy friend
This is what makes me feel he might be bi.. He enjoys anal sex
We used to be very sexual active untill a few month after this
Male friend came in the picture.
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reader, uberpinkii  +, writes (18 October 2008):
 everyones different.
im only young but open minded..
my boyfriend and i both like anal done to us.( we havent gone the whole way yet with eahother, just as far as regular sex and lots of toys, learningdifferent tihngs about eahcother.
i know my boyfriend isnt gay, hes with me and has been for just under a year.
it feels amazing for a guys down there as they have their version of a G spot there.
its not everyones cup of tea.. but aslong as its safe and virtually pain free, its gr8 to try diffent things.
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reader, babybaby +, writes (18 October 2008):
It doesnt mean hes gay means he may just like it, you will need to work on your communication... and trust and talk to him about this concern, and find out if its just a sexual thing he likes with women or more to it.. it may just be what he likes dont over react!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): Id say he is...but trust your instincts ....have you asked him?
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