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writes:I have recently found an e.mail from a female colleague of my husband who asked him if he gotback safely from a recent meeting where hestayed overnight. Do you think this is anythingto worry about considering he said she wasn'teven there? Reply to this Question
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (30 September 2008):
 No. On its own it's not something to worry about. Concern about a co-worker who is going away is common, perfectly normal, and a sign of friendship - which is always good.
However, there's always the possibility that there is more to it. There's no point in being paranoid about it, but being alert and aware of your partner, any changes to his habits or attitudes, is always good.
I think it's important to remember that IF (very big "IF") your partner is "closer" to someone than he "ought" to be, then it usually takes very little to bring him back to where he should be if it hasn't gone too far.
We, men, (most of us) are potentialy attracted to thousands of women for thousands of reasons. That doesn't mean we're going to throw away a relationship with the one we truly love, but sometimes it really is a great idea to remind us of the warmth and importance of our real love - and the reasons we fell in love in the first place. It's far too easy to stray. Just make the effort to remind him why he loves you, and the chances are that if there is the slightest possibility of a problem then it will disappear.
And, if there isn't a problem, a bit of love and warmth never does any harm anyway.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (30 September 2008):
 It is hard to tell, but it does seem odd that she would worry about his going back safely if she wasn't there. It doesn't sound like something most people would do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008): She doesn't have to be there in order to be concerned with his safe return.I have coworkers that I ask those types of questions to also. There is nothing going on between us, I just want to know and make sure they arrived to their destination safely and in one piece.But that isn't to say something is going with your husband and this other woman. However, you don't have much to go on so I wouldn't worry too much about it. If you can't seem to shake it, then all you can do is ask your husband if there is something going on. Communication is the first step to understanding.Peace.
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