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writes:Is my husband still intrestid in me? I've been married for 7yr, have 4 kids and dont understand my husband. I mean my husband dosent even ask for sex. I even started to buy sexy lingerie an wear it around for him. Figured I could turn him on, NOTHING HAPPENDS?? He dosent even comment on anything. what else can i do to turn him on?? We even been goin on dates now. Im really gettin tired of tellin him how i feel. Im a very blunt person thierfor always tell him everthing, so he knows how i feel. He never aproches me its always me that dose it. Im tired of askin for sex. I mean i thought the male was sopose to be dominating and im sick of doin it. Reply to this Question
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (2 September 2009):
 There is some underlying fear of a fifth child perhaps.
But seriously, when you're younger the pressure is on to make money and support your family. That becomes a number 1 priority. If you have children, they basically wear you down even more.
So at the end of the day, the two of you are so tired, sex is so far removed from your lives its not even an afterthought anymore.
My suggestion under these circumstances is to find a way so that you and your husband can get away together. Away as in leave the kids behind with grandparents, a nanny, a manny, an experienced mom/babysitter. Anyone. You need time alone with him so that you two can reconnect.
I know for certain that work can wear a man down to a nub. There could be a great deal of pressure put on to perform at work, and then with you and the kids demanding more and more, then asking for sex on top of that well that could be more than he can handle right now.
All of that said, the only other explanations for this are he has low testosterone levels, he has some action on the side, or he's turned gay.
Without more, though, I think none of us can get any closer so you need to basically get him to tell you what's eating at him.
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