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female
reader, Lovelywon  +, writes (26 January 2009):
Princess,
I was married to a down low man for three years. Lack of sex is definitely a sign. You should read the book The Straight Up Truth about the Down Low by Joy Marie. They have all of the signs in the book as well as stories of women in DL relationships. I also emailed the author and she repled with great advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): we need more information
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male
reader, Arianz  +, writes (25 December 2008):
 Dear,
If he involved in another woman then u can catch it well. coz u always close to him.
He is a guy so he will comes with nervous behave when he does this type work.
Another thing: Does he likes ur figure or appeals in bed.
Some guys giveup sex with wifes cause of her figure and look also ways of sex.
U have to know that 1st.
but dont take any step without confirm anything.
best of luck
take care
arianz
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): He has to feel desired by you...period.
If he senses he's not or that you are faking it then he will turn off or on to someone new.
Desire......A two way street....
Good luck
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male
reader, Griffo  +, writes (25 December 2008):
 I have been asked this same question from many women who are very close friends to me. When it came to the truth there were couple of factors:
1. He could potentially be cheating with another woman. This needs to be further investigated.
Or;
2. His sex drive is rapidly declining. Many men in there thirties lose the drive they once had in the 20's while womens sex drives usually increase in the thirties due to the desire to pro-create.
Hang in there, though it is incredibly awkward for a man to last that long, even a woman in a married situation, to last that long withoutht an form of intercourse.
The best thing I've ever told any lady is to give him 100% every single time. that way when you've exhausted every possibility you'll be able to walk away with no regrets if the need arrises.
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female
reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (25 December 2008):
 Well there is a few signs you can look for like not leaving his celphone lay around and deleting numbers. coming home and going straight to the shower without stopping to say hey or keeping his distance even if he does .Coming in and going out at odd hours staying out and making up reasons. and so on and so forth . but only you know your husband and how he acts if you pay close enough attention to him you will catch him if he is on the down low he will slip up...
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