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writes:My husband and I have been married for 5 and a half months. I am 10 weeks pregnant and starting to gain a little weight. Before we got married, sex was not an issue. He wanted me all the time and gave me a look that always made me feel sexy and beautiful. Since we got married, we have less and less sex. I know he is under some stress and worried about our finances with a baby on the way. Sex isn't even on his mind anymore. I try seducing him and it doesn't work. The other night, he told his best friend (right in front of me) "sex is over rated" and that is so not like him. It took everything I had in me to keep from crying. I feel he's getting bored with me, and that I don't turn him on at all any more. He said today that NOBODY can turn him on any more. What is wrong with me?
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reader, Jedi_Mistress +, writes (26 October 2009):
 Oh man, I know exactly what you mean. Im 14 weeks pregnant and my man and I have started having less sex...and he also used to make me feel sexy and beautiful all the time. Now, it's like he's always stressed thus he's never in the mood. Sweety it's important to remember that there is nothing wrong with you. Most times the scenarios that we come up with in our heads to explain why our parters behave as they do hold no truth. Being pregnant is really hard on emotions (I know, Im not far ahead of you). In fact you might need to sit your husband down for a heart to heart (even if you cry hysterically), and let him know how you feel. The fact that there is a baby inside of you might be making him feel like he'd be having sex in front of your child, he's stressing about all kinds of things you're not concerned with yet...so he could be turned off with everything. Anyway, there's nothing wrong with you, your husband might just have a hard time communicating his concerns and is uncomfortable talking about them, so he's taking it out on you in a passive agressive way. It's not you, it's him. But dont blame him, things will get better.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 October 2009):
There's nothing wrong with you at all. I think he's suffering from depression. Perhaps the pregnancy and all the stress is really getting to him.
There isn't anyting wrong with you, so don't think that. you need to talk to your boyfriend gently and try to find out if everything is okay in his life at the moment. Reind him that you're preganant and you need to him be really be there. Focus on getting your relationship back on track and worry less about the sex. Good luck.
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