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anonymous
writes:I am in a loving happy relationship with a man i adore and who adores me and satisfies me in every way. We have been together since we were 17 and we are seriously happier than ever except...I have this male friend, and we have known each other longer than me and my boyfriend have. Anyway, for the past two years or so this guy friend has started saying weird things to me. When we are together (and especially if hes been drinking) he will insinuate that he had a crush on me when we first met. He has said this soooo many times, he keeps saying it and i never know what to say so i dont really say anything.Anyway what he says is that he has wanted to dance with me since we met, and he wants to slow dance with me and stuff. It's bizarre. I'm not sure if he has feelings for me or not. He also tells me that when we first me he thought i was the coolest chick ever. It all makes me rather uncomfortable but we are good friends and i know that he is an affectionate, loving guy, so i try not to read too much into it.My boyfriend doesnt like it though, he thinks my guy friend is coming onto me. I rarely hang out with this guy friend, we see each other at parties and such. He's said these things to me so many times (and did tonight in fact which is why i am writing). I don't know what to do about it, it makes me and my man uncomfortable but i dont want to make a big deal out of it if hes NOT coming on to me because it would be awkward.So judging by the things he has said (both totally sober and drunk so i cant really chalk it up to drunk ramblings)- do you think there are feelings there that i should be concerned about? What do i say it response the next time he starts talking about it? It's always awkward for me so i usually just sort of laugh it off and then walk away as soon as i can. I dont want to stop being his friend, it would be pretty impossible anyway since we hang out in the same big group. He's a very nice guy but this is getting to be a bit much for me and my boyfriend. please help
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reader, auvi  +, writes (2 December 2007):
it is true that he is coming onto you but it is not possible to verify if he really loves you or not. People doesnt forget their intentions when they are drunk and similarly, people can also lie when they are drunk. i guess being drunk makes him more... open to express his desires.
it hurts to loose a friend. but to maintain your relationship along with maintaining your friendship , you might have to make some sacrifices. like, it wont be wise to hangout with him where he might get drunk. or u should get togather with him only when you are among more of your friends. so you can get some protection of company.
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