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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): It doesnt sound like a good relationship to me. I think shes uncomfortable. Time may help, but i think we need more information about the dynamics of the relationship outside the bedroom. MAL
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): since your her first girlfriend i think she feel uncomfortable so just talk to her. show her how to get comfortable with the situation. it takes time.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Are you sure she's comfortable with being a lesbian? Because it sounds more like she's an autosexual who happens to have you as her sex toy. Unless this is a consentual Dom/sub thing you have going here?
What does she say when you talk about it?
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reader, Yos  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Sex is like a bank account? How to make it sound sexy!
How about: sex is like a game of tennis? It only works if both people serve
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 She could have a different sexual orientation from you and maybe in time , she will learn to pleasure you back.
Maybe, you need to communicate to her about it and tell her your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): Have you spoken to her about it? Sex should be a 50/50 both partners should be happy, not just one. I wouldn't say she is using you sex as such but it does sound as if she is being selfish. Tell her your not happy, and go from there.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 May 2010):
It would depend on how she is at other times. If she's always cold, then yes. But it could be that she's just nervous. You need to look at how she acts in all aspects of her life, not just sex.
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