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Is my friend's ex trying to hurt her through me? What's going on here?

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Question - (17 May 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 18 May 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, *atyyedwards writes:

My best friend and I have been friends a really long time ( 4 years) , and she is a really good friend, but she was dating this guy for a while and ( he was controlling , and couldn't stand that she stood up for herself) I never met her boyfriend while they were dating ,but one night she told me he was mad at her because she was busy and wouldn't let him come over and well he added me off her Facebook and asked if I was his girlfriends best friend and I said yes , and he said he wanted to tell me why they were fighting and told me some mean stuff about her. ( I don't know why he was telling me this when he didn't know me when he knew I would tell her) but then he told me they were no longer together which I found out later was untrue , but now they are broke up.

They haven't been broke up very long , and well now me and him are dating ( Ive only known him a couple weeks not even a month) and my friend doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore because I was dating him behind her back and well I don't know if he really likes me or is just using me because I have heard he had sex with another girl which is true because the girl described him to me , and I don't know what to do.

Also at first when they were still together ( when he was telling me they weren't) he was trying to text me and her at the same time and asking her to be his sex buddy.he also told her that how did it feel not to have control over who her friends talked to and its weird.So all I want to know is if he is trying to hurt her through me? I have heard also that he stares at my friend alot at school.they go to the same school I go to a different one.We are all seniors btw plus he would take her out to eat and stuff and we only hang at the mall so ? what should I do my friend basically hates my guts now!do u think me and him will last long?

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A female reader, Babydoll86 United Kingdom +, writes (18 May 2011):

Hi, i noticed you reposted this question as there were no replies.

Well if you want the truth you have been a lousy friend to this poor girl! She is the victim in all of this.

Your new man was bang out of order to contact you and you were just as baf to respond. No doubt she is feeling doubly-betrayed as you are meant to be the person she turns too for a shoulder to cry on. Instead you chose to jump straight in with the guy who broke her heart. I hope you are proud.

No doubt this guy will treat you just as bad and your ex-best friend will not be there to wipe your tears if she has any sense. Its called kalma.

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