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writes:Just over a month ago now I started dating this guy who my friend set me up with. The guy is from her work. Anyway we we went out a fair few times. And then not last week, the week before we had planned to go out to dinner but he cancelled that day because one of his best mates was suddenly going back to his home in a different city and he wanted to saygoodbye. Fair enough. But he said he was really disapointed he didnt get to see me and would love to see me the next weekend. And I talked to him later in the week and he said agian he would like to see me that weekened. But nothing happened. Neither of us made plans to catch up.Then he said to me after the weekend was over that his weekend was boring and they he should of given me and my friend a ring and caught up with us girls. And he said it seems like he hasnt seen me in ages and would really like to see me and that we hsould do something next weekend. So I said ok, what do u wanna do? And he said he didnt know. And i had no ideas either so we left it for the time being. And once agian nothing happend.Then yesterday my friend invited him along to the movies with me and her and he said he would come. But then today, the day of the date, he changed his mind. I talked to him on the net online and asked if he was going and he asked if we were still going and i said yes...then he didnt say anyhrting else about it. But then my friend sent him a message and she said that he said that he wasnt gona go cause he had seen all the movies that were all out but one of them. So basically my question is whats going on with this guy? i really like him but he keeps cancelling dates on me. I dont know why .if he wasnt interested in me would he really make up the lies about that he 'really wants to see me' and 'hopes to see me soon' etc cause that would just be mean and cruel.I have a bad feeling that my friend has somethign to do with this. Although shes a friend, she has never been the best. Shes always been jealous of me and tried to ruin alot of things that make me happy. Thats why I was pretty confused when she decided to set me up with this guy whom I thought she sounded like she had a crush on cause of the way she talked about him, even though she had a bf. So i was shocked. I have a feeling that maybe she set me up with him only to just ruin it later down the track? Or maybe him 'cancelling' on me could be some big misunderstanding as alot of the times the messages come through my friend. I dont know. im confused. what od u guys think?p.s. im 18, so is my friend and the guy is 20.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (20 February 2007):
 Your story is so sad because it mirrors the reason my last relationship fell apart. My friend was responsible for that. She told my guy lies about me and generally acted like a cow when the three of us found ourselves in the same place. I told her I would never forgive her if she wrecked things for me with this guy and she did it anyway but we have to live together so on the surface of things I'm still being very falsely nice to her.
I guess you could try chatting to the guy yourself and see what went wrong and if you do see him again keep it a secret from your friend until you're on a more stable footing. If she's really faffed things up for you however I guess all you can do is not go out with anyone she sets you up with in future and don't tell her about other boyfriends until your relationship is a little more secure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): Don't tell your friend everything that you do. The bloke sounds a bit slow anyway. If he had wanted to date he would of thought of something for you both to do, so i wouldn't be too worried. There are plenty more lovely blokes out there. Just don't let your friend in on what you are doing and remember, triangles NEVER work.
Take care
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reader, Psyche  +, writes (20 February 2007):
Your friend may have something to do with it but this guy sounds like a lurp. If he is that easily persuaded by a third party then he isn't trust worthy. I would move on. You can ask your friend about it, but it may cause a fight. Best thing to do is not date people she is connected to in any way. Good luck
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