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writes:I am turning 29 and him 31 and we've known each other for 9 years. We dated 2 and half years in the same city. We have been on and off long distance and it did not work. We tried other relationships but never loved another person the way we loved each other. We also tried to make our relationship work long distance but it did not work although we had a wonderful relationship when we lived in the same city. I am getting out of yet another disastrous relationship and realizing that I may settle to spend my life with a man that I don't love as much. The only problem he is in a relationship too... but loves me and would be with me without hesitation if I was in the same city. Is the distance a good reason to let go of possibly living the rest of my life with the man I love? Is it worth giving up the life I built here? Ladies if you had the chance to win back and spend the rest of your life with the man you love the most would you go for it? what would you do to make it work?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): You're the only one who can truly answer that question, I know it probably doesn't help you that much.
Why should you give up the life you've built, why doesn't he come to you? I do think you should go for it, if it means that much to you, but he has to meet you half way, it can't be all you.
If it doesn't work again and you have given up everything for him, then where does that leave you?
He said he'd be with you if you were in the same city, then he should be willing to move to your city, if he's not willing to do that then you'll have to consider his intentions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): I am not a lady :) but reading your story it seems to be worth it. It's not so easy to find 'the love of your life' (as you understand in the meantime) and in both your situation it seems clear that you deeply love each other.
If you can bild something up in one place, you can also do it in another place, and if you are together with 'the love of your life', your energy and power to realize things are huge.
My wife came 8000 km to be with the love of her life and I would do the same for her when my children are adult. children in the).
I think that you will regret later if you didn't. You do not have to do it for 'regret' reasons, but for happiness reasons.
Realize that you experienced real deep love and once you have experienced this, 80% is not enough.
Real love generates real happiness, generates harmony, generates health, generates beauty, generates... it's a circle.
Hope my answer could help you.
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