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writes:ok im not too sure how to put this question but i will have a go.about 5 months ago me and my ex split up but we`re still really close. ive recently been showing intrest in another guy and me any my ex hasnt been as close, all of a sudden my ex told me that he loves me and wants me back. me and the other guy have decieded that we want a secret relationship as our famliys are close. my question is... is my ex jellous that im intrested in someone else or does he actually mean what he says, hes some one that i would trust but in just not sure if he actully means what he says.please help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2008): Am actually browsing this site cos I feel similar to your ex right now. My GF split with me about 7 months ago and I had a terrible time trying to let go. After a few weeks I started seeing someone else but was clear from the start that I didn't want a serious relationship just some one to sleep with. Any way I found my self lacking something possibly intimacy and romance. Sex wasn't helping, I found myself missing my ex again we ended up exchanging emails and she even came to meet me on my birthday for a drink. I had told the girl I was sleeping with how i felt for my ex which pushed her away only to find out my ex had been seeing one of m old friends. So here I am heartbroke again and I've lost a new lover due to my feelings for my ex. My advice to you is which guy do you really like? And if you do go back to your ex proceed with caution make sure your wearing the trousers
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (16 September 2008):
 I may agree with Sister about your ex. He could be trying to mark territory. Maybe he was possessive while you were together? I am afraid possessive personalities tend not to relinquish control even when the relationship ends. I am not so sure i agree with her about the other though. It strikes me as a tad cynical to suggest that; maybe he fears dissapproval or that they will try to meddle, I have experience of both and can thus understand there are reasons other than the ones she gives for his desire for secrecy.
It may well be true we are both being overly cynical about both of them because simply put there isnt enough info here to go on. It maybe that your ex has unresolved issues from the breakdown of the relationship and is being perfectly sincere in what he says; without more info it is hard to say much definitive. You know these people best and need to weigh up the possibilities based on your judgement of their characters. Good luck :)
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