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female
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anonymous
writes:I have starting dating this amazing divorced 24 year old guy. He is everything I ask for. But everytime we hangout it seems like he has to mention stuff that occured with his ex. He doesnt trash talk her but he'll be like "bec my ex was very diff from me and she got so upset when i did ...." , while were talking abt how compatible we are. I try not to let it bother me and apparently done such a good job of that even he thinks im okay with it. And I guess I am half okay with it bec i learn stuff of his past but at the same time I'm starting to think he isn't over her. Even though he says he is... and its been a year and a half since they got divorced. She cheated on him various times.Also on facebook he still has a couple of pics with her, which I think he should delete, now that he has me as his gf on facebook and pics with me. Should I ask him to delete the pics with her since according to him we are in a relationship or should I just let it be???Thanks
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 I realise you're a bit sensitive about his history, particularly the way it affects your present. It's natural and a theme that runs through a lot of problems.However, he has a history and it is obviously a part of who he is and for whatever reason is not able or ready to let go of that. That isn't a criticism. It just is what it is. He wants to move on and in time you will develop better stories and memories. I occasionally drop stories in that happened with an ex, and I have FB pics of my exes in the 700 or so pictures because guess what - they're a part of my life! As long as it's all in perspective, I don't see what the problem is.Look at it like this: are you prepared to correct elements of your history to please him? If not, then don't ask him to.You say he is everything you ask for. Why not use that as the base for better things instead of nitpicking at one minor imperfection?
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