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writes:I've been with my dream guy that i've loved for 5 years for 8 monthes now. he has an ex of 2 and a half years and it seems like he's still hooked on her. she sent him through the court system and now she's trying to wreck us. he always tells me he loves me and not her, and i believe him. she texts him and calls him all the time and i'm not confortable with that. she's invited him over multiple times and he went once to help her move and she tried to make a move on him. the next day she called him and told him he had to decide, her or me. and he picked me. he'd picked her up from work which is like 45 minutes each way. i don't know if i can do this anymore. i love him so much. but i want to know i'm number one in his life and not just a second after her. what am i supposed to do? this is so hard emotionally on me.and i know that he hides his conversations with her from me. he's told me multiple times he's going to stop talking to her, but never does.WHAT DO I DO!? i can't deal with her bullshit anymore.but i don't want to lose him, i love him so much.
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reader, Disturbed Princess  +, writes (21 December 2008):
 thats sorta the same as my prob | Vi like this guy he says he loves me the other day i fell asleep on him but then a guy thats staying at my place with my family walked in the door n he like stopped talking to me n kissing my head n he just like ignores me when that guys the room he just like its hard to explain but im sure you get what im saying. he just acts like a whole different person when that guys around its just bothering me so much i have tried talking to him and his brother and even the guy about it but they dont seem to listen...guys are hard to find the right one but make sure when you find the right one you dont ever let them go because you probly wont get then back.if its bothering you so much sit down and talk to him about it make an arrangment make them both sit down with you and talk about it. what i would do is talk to him about it and get him to stop spending so much time with her and see if he still likes her or yea maybe they are good friends and if he chose you over her that should tell you that he loves you and if he doesnt love you his not worth your time
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd now to top it off. He wants to go work in the same mall she does. Does this ever get better?I don't want to lose him
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Well the only way that you can truely show him that you mean business is to leave him...he's taking you for granted..and he's lying to you about talking to his ex...now suppose they are trying to get back together...I'm not saying that's the case but in these sorts of situations the worst is always the ending..so please leave him..I know it will be hard but it will be the only way for him to straighten up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. But the thing is he's told me looking me in the eyes that's he's stopping talking to her.
And he freaks on me when I tell her to back off.
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reader, BeckiiW  +, writes (9 December 2008):
 My advice is, sit him down tell him to look deep in your eyes and tell you the truth! It may not be what you want to hear but at least you will know and tell the obsessed ex to back off, he's with YOU not her!good luck
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