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writes:So to cut a long story short one of my closest friends and I just got through this huge fight. We settled our differences but things are still weird for me. I've always had feelings for her and I made the mistake of letting her know a few times. It got to the point where now she has told me that we would never be more then friends. She has told me this before but there have been times where we have came really close. I do realize that this is said during the end of the settlement of the discussion and that I don't intend to wait around. However over the next few months I do intend on improving myself for myself. Look and attitude. My question is that is there no hope in sight? She does seem to want to meet people or go out and party. I know that my chances are slim but is it possible somewhere down the line when things are different that things will change? Will we somewhere down the line , without holding or waiting for her , be more then friends even though she has said this? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (22 January 2010):
 There's always the chance! People change, feelings change, life changes and there's the possibility that someday, the timing will be right. But, if you want that to have a chance of happening, you'll need to back off and give her the space to live her life and appreciate you. If you give her room, she may be able to look at you in a new light.
Until then, move on. Space yourself from her so that you can get over her and enjoy the friendship that you two share. But otherwise, move on and better yourself. Show her what she's missing out on and most of all, don't do it all for her - do it for YOU! Love your life and don't waste too much time yearning for what you can't have right now.
Good luck, sweet!
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