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writes: Love is one of the those things, one of those things we want day in and day out but one of those things we dread at the same time because love doesn't just stop with a kiss, it leads to more and more and let's be honest, it doesn't always work out for the best. Too many people in this day and age focus solely on love and finding that mysterious 'one' that will make everything in their life look beautiful and bright. But the problem with this is that way too many young people, I mean young teens, are now out looking for love. They plaster themselves in make-up far beyond the necessary amount and they show off far too much of their bodies for such young girls. In the past year, I have heard my own cousin (male, age 11) speak about 6 different girlfriends that he's had and it's only March, granted, he is a boy and he is young, but I've also had the pleasure (or displeasure as the case has been a few times) to meet some of the girls that my cousin has chosen to date. The first girl was lovely, a bubbly, well-dressed and polite girl with a beautiful smile and an innocent charm about her, naturally my cousin decided she was not the one for him and he dumped her, apparently she was too nice. The second looked like she'd been attacked by a box of crayola in the middle of the night, rolled around and messed it all up and then been dragged through a hedge backwards. And the other four looked rather similar. My cousin is 11 as I said, I heard him use the words 'I love you' more times that I've heard him argue with his sister (which is a lot, believe me). I couldn't help but think, you're 11, what do you know about love?! A day after meeting the final girlfriend, I watched my cousin talk with his friends about sex and they all performed dances that I never thought I would see my cousin do, it was gross. But this to me has highlighted the fact that children don't understand what it is to love and the media and other forms of networking and advertising are promoting love to be nothing more than sex and fun. My cousin used to be a quiet, polite and angelic boy, he would never have walked up to me with his friends and said or let them say something like 'you alright, sugar tits' or 'nice big booty'. He's learnt all of this from the television, and if I'm honest, I'm concerned for his age and understanding of sex with no understanding or moral ground when it comes to anything else.The problem seems to be growing, more and more I see young teens (13-16) saying how madly in love they are with someone after one or two days, it's ridiculous. And the number of people having under age sex is appalling, I am NOT blaming the parents of teachers for this, I am blaming society and the media. Almost every advert on the television has some sort of sexual message and whether people notice it or not is a different matter, but young teens are looking for these sorts of messages and reading them, sometimes incorrectly but reading them nonetheless. Schools are not taking the best route when it comes to sex education, again, this is not the teachers' fault, it is the curriculum that restricts teachers. When I was at school, I was (sadly) in one of the naughtier classes, because of this, we were given a single sex education class that didn't even last the full hour because the teachers couldn't face it, but what we learnt didn't help or educate us on the bad points, we learnt everything good about sex, not once were aids, diseases and pregnancy mentioned. Sure, most of us knew this stuff, but it wasn't talked about. Instead, we sat and watched a video in which a cartoon woman was being chased around the bedroom by a naked man before they slid under the covers, at that point the video was turned off (of course). Two years after that painfully boring and uneducating class, we were given another sex education lesson, at which point we were again told all the great points about sex, not once were the bad points mentioned. A year after that, 3 girls dropped out of school pregnant, a year later, a boy in my class had a baby, a year later, a further four people fell pregnant and had babies and one girl got gonorrhea. It's no wonder people have no understanding of sex when no bad points at ever mentioned! Sure, some adverts mention safety, but only adverts like the condom advert which I think promotes sex if anything. And finally, magazines. Girls make themselves ill to look like famous people because the magazines say what is 'hot or not' and they will do almost anything to fit into their glorious size 6 to impress the boys. At a young age, from 13-25, sometimes older, boys are looking for beautiful girls that are easy, it's the way their minds work and girls are no different, they're looking for sexy boys with great fashion sense. These two classes attract each other and soon enough you have a boy putting a notch in his bedpost and a girl crying because he's moved on to the next. And still people don't get it! What is it about people and love? They all want it and yet they're all stupid enough never to see it when they're given it. Wake up people! Love is the person you're not looking at because you're looking at what society says is right or good.Love is practically a game now and I honestly hope to the heavens that people wake up and realise to teach it to their own children before it is literally nothing more than sex and games.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2014): Haha thanks xx! Hey, check out my column! I've just written a new article, where you can share your story about the most funniest/embarrassing, worst or bad moments with your siblings. It'd be nice to have an opinion or story from a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh brill, thank you, doll, I wasn't sure if it had my name or not so thank you very much, you're a little diamond!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2014): I sure did add you, and I'm certainly glad I did. At the beginning of your article, it says "by Baby Doll X." that's the thing that atracted me to this article, and I'm glad I've read it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Taylor*, sounds good. I've tried his grandparents but one of them wants nothing to do with him because he's not the first born blah, blah, blah, and his other grandma won't get involved because it would cause arguments and I understand her reasoning. Our grandma isn't confrontational and he always gets it bad from everyone if she says anything unless me or my mum is there to stick up for her. Bless her cottons.
I might try the school thing, I never thought of that, thanks, doll. By the way, it's just occurred to me, you don't know who you're actually talking to because it's anonymous, didn't realise I'd done that. I'm Baby Doll x, I believe you added me as a friend a while back :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2014): Hey, it's me again! Just thought of some ways to help you deal with your cousin if you need any tips. You said his parents don't care, does he have any granparents? or an uncle? maybe you could get in touch with his school, provided he goes to school and isn't home schooled. maybe if the school got involved, it will make his parents realise that they're not looking after their son.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2014): Thank you so much. I really appreciate being told I'm smart. Makes a good change in my life. Thanks xxxx! And i'm deffo not changing myself! Not even to meet Taylor Swift! lol! good luck with your cousin and everything, hope it works out. You're right kids these days aren't really bad, it's just all that crap they watch, and listen to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey doll, I'm in the process of dealing with my cousin already, but he's a boy at the end of the day and I need his brother to speak to him for me, problem is, I don't speak to his parents or brothers, long story but essentially I cut them off. And even if I did speak to them, his parents don't care, they've never cared, they brush him off like he's nothing and they've never supported him or dealt with him the way they should, that's why I do it, he comes to me for things he should never have to come to me about. But that's another story completely. The top and bottom is that I am dealing with him and I WILL deal with him one way or another. He's not a bad kid, he's just got crap role models. There are more and more people that deal in sex for love. This is a fast paced world with a lot of hard working people that believe love will take away from their work and so sex is a fast and simple solution, a wrong one, but simple. For a lot of men, not all, it's simply a good night and a notch in the bedpost and for women, even some of them are starting to think like that now, either that or they believe they're living the dream of a work driven, strong powered woman. I can understand that view, but it doesn't mean I agree. Labels are always going to be around and sadly they seem to be aimed badly at woman, a good example is the 'Outstanding Women - Controversial Pantene Advert' - you have have seen it - but the labels are true and infuriating. A man is a 'Boss' but a woman is 'Bossy' etc. They're always going to be there so women have the right to fight back in their decisions to do what they do, but there are better and more effective ways to fight back against this stereotypes in my personal opinion. Do yourself a favour, doll, never change, stay true to who you are, be what you want to be and never let anyone tell you different because you've clearly got a good, strong head on your shoulders and from the advice you've asked, you have the opportunity to go far.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2014): Oh, forgot to add, I agree with you on your last point. Love isn't just about sex and games. Finally! Someone agrees with me! Don't know what it is with some people really! "love is just sex!" my foot! Love isn't just sex, and the people that think it is? Wake up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2014): You're article is brilliant, it hasn't afended me in any way. You give great advice for just being 18. Oh yeah, and if you're concerned about your cousin, you should really talk to his parents or his gardian; he is only eleven, he shouldn't even be thinking about that kind of stuff! It's time his parents talked some sense in to him. There is more to life then just big titts and bum, and he needs to know that. Why don't you have a chat with him first and then talk to his parents? Oh, and yes, the sex education is terrible, because if you ask me, the teachers just talk about sex in a scientific way when you're in year 7 and 8, but actually go in to more detail in year 9. I find that a little frustrating, because, the year nines aren't the only teenagers. There are year sevens and eights. Anyway, you should write more articles, because I think this article is fantastic! Can't wait to read another one x!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree with you, TaylorSwift1Fan, not all teens are like that. I was generalising for the sake of the article, and yes, I have thought about the children that are not like that. For the past few months now, I have been reinforcing self-belief, self-respect and thought for the future, I have been into schools to talk to students about this very issue and this article was something I read to them along with discussing the issues of love and sex etc, younger people tend to relate better to a young person talking to them instead of at them. I am well aware of the children that are not like this and I have a great deal of respect for them, it takes incredible courage to not be a sheep and follow the crowd because society tells them to do so. Your argument is completely valid and I am not in anyway disrespecting it, but this was also an article that I wrote from witnessing these events. I am very pleased to hear you're not like that and I like your view on love, I have read and answered some of your questions myself and I am pleased to see that your head is firmly on your shoulders. I myself am a particularly dark and pessimistic person when it comes to love, for my own reasons, no one has made that view for me and no one will ever change it, not even the 'one'. As far as I am concerned at the present, love is a game that I do not want to become involved in, of course that will change with time but for now, I would rather put my focus into encouraging others to stand up and refuse to follow the 'norms'. Thank you for your comment, doll, but I didn't mean it completely the way you understood it to be, obviously because of your age it stands out more to you and I think it is excellent for you to challenge that. But I am not a great deal older than you, I am 18 and people judge us for the majority, not the minority. But focusing on the minority that deserve the credit will only draw the wrong attention because the majority never want to be wrong, no one wants to be wrong. Focusing on the majority will help people to realise that they can stand out and not be a sheep. That is my aim and thus far, I have had great success from this path. I apologise if my article has offended you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2014): I'm not trying to be mean or rude or anything, but have you actually thought of some children who are not like how you described them? Not all girls are slutts and not all girls have no self respect. The girls who die to look like those girls in magazines are just gullible and they have no self respect or confidence. They're gullible because they really don't understand, do they? All those beautiful girls in the adverts or mags are just photo-shopped. We're learning about this in school. They're not real! They're just pictures of girls made absolutely beautiful. That's something i absolutely find disgusting about the media indistree. They make the girls feel as if they're not good enough like the girls on the paper or tv. But anyway, I think love is a beautiful but hurtful thing. Beautiful because it can last but hurtful because it can't last. I think different people understand love in different ways. Not all girls and boys are like that. It's like saying a majority of the UK LOVE CHOCOLATE, BUT SOME DON'T. you'd think everyone is like that. That's very judgemental. A lot of adults forget that teens are growing up, and while others choose to be sluts and have no confidence, others choose to be mature about it and wait.
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