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Is joining the armed forces a good idea, and could she be pregnant?

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Question - (23 January 2008) 1 Answers - (Newest, 23 January 2008)
A male United States age 36-40, *k06 writes:

My girlfriend and I have been together since we graduated highschool.

She didn't have her period. She is on birth control, so she knows the week that she will have her period. The week came and went.

She has been on bc for quite a while, and she uses it correctly. I had her take a pregnancy test this morning, which would have been a day after the latest she could have her period. The test was negative.

I'm still nervous. There is absolutely no way that I would abandon her and my child if she is pregnant. I am currently a junior at a university, working on becoming a dermatologist. My idea if she does end up being pregnant is to try really hard to get into the Navy. They would pay for my schooling because of my high ASVAB score... there is one problem, when I tried to get in before, I couldnt because of medical problems. I believe that with my child being my fuel, I would be able to make it through.

I have two questions... is it not rare for a woman to miss her period while on birth control, or is she most likely pregnant? Also, is my idea of joining the armed forces to support them a good idea?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2008):

This might be a bit useless, but I'll do my best.

I'm sorry, but I'm not sure about the birth control thing.

But about joining the armed forces...

This does seem like a good idea, and it's great that you wanna support your possible-family, but this means spending an awful lot of time away from them.

I was watching a telly programme a few days ago on the armed forces, and it explained about what it was like in the army - and leaving your loved ones behind. If you two had a child, you may miss an important part in their life. Not only would your girl more than likely want you there during a very memorable time in her life. I think you should think about that long and hard.

Would you want to miss a lot of your child's life?

Would you be willing to sacrifice time with your girl?

Would you be strong enough, to leave them both, not even being certain if you will ever return to them?

Would your girl mind you going away and leaving her?

I'm not trying to name all the negatives about being in the army, as it is a very useful and exciting job to do, but you must take all these things into consideration. You can't just get the job and quit when you like. A lot of training is involved, and you're not allowed to just quit.

Wait, see if she's pregnant for sure (which, by the sounds, she's most likely not - but I'm not exactly sure) and then decide. But don't forget to talk to her about it!! Being in the army would effect your relationship massively.

Hope this was of help :] Good luck.

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