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writes:My ex and I broke up three months ago. I initiated the breakup because we were in LDR and he drifted apart. I told him a hundred times if he had no love for me, please just feel free to tell me, I would understand since it's so difficult to be apart. However, he lied to me about it. He used to tell me he loved me before we broke up, but when I said goodbye, he kept silence. He just told me to move on without explaining why he's being so cold. We had no contact for three months until he got his shirts that I sent back to him. (He gave me the shirts when he left me. He wanted me to keep the shirts so when I missed him, I could look at the shirts as if he's with me) He told me it hurt him a lot that I sent his stuff back. I don't know how to react. I'm moving on as he wanted me to. Why did he say things like this? Am I wrong?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 June 2013):
 I see nothing wrong in returning them, it would be a good way for you to let "go" of him and the past.
Just don't engage in any conversations/texts about the shirts or anything else with him.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (28 June 2013):
 Every guy wants to go to think we'll be remembered by our exes for the rest of their lives. He left you his shirts because he wanted those to be a memento of him. His ego has taken a blow because you are obviously moving on and he would like to think your feelings for him will "be there for forever" when in fact you've clearly moved on (or attempting to).
You didn't do anything wrong.
I do think you did the admirable thing. However, given his reaction, if you feel the need to return any more of his things that he claims to have given you, I would suggest that you donate them to goodwill.
Eddie
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 June 2013):
 No, you're not wrong. I wouldn't worry about him or his reactions any more. Those are in the past, you've done what you needed to do, now stop worrying. You did what what right for you and you did nothing mean or hurtful.
Let it go and be happy you are now past it and have no ties to him to hold you back.
Good luck!
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reader, fishdish +, writes (27 June 2013):
 I would need to know more about him..maybe he just respected what you were saying, or maybe the long distance was taking a toll on him and he had no fight left in him, it's unclear, but I think giving back the shirts just felt like the nail in the coffin. If you feel good about your decision, you are not obliged to respond.
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