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writes:I started seeing a guy a few months back and I thought he was lovely but it was nothing serious. At the time I was still really good mates with my ex and a few times he came round and it felt like we were still together, we ended up having sex and although I felt guilty, it happened a few times after that while i was still seeing the other guy. After a couple of weeks I felt so bad and told my ex I didnt want to see him anymore. I carried on seeing the lovely guy and didnt tell him what had happened. we became more and more serious, and now 5 months later we're still together. he is truely amazing and im happier than ive ever been, but occasionally i feel like i should tell him what happened at the start of our relationship...Is it wrong to keep it quiet now that we're so in love or is it best not to mess up our relationship over something that was stupid and happened before we really got to know each other? I know for a fact i would never cheat on him now we've got to know each other...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): I have to definitely side with Gina on this! Why hurt someone just to ease your conscience? You realize you made a mistake...now you have to live with it. But don't destroy what you have with your boyfriend, due to guilt! Learn from your mistake and move on!
If I had a situation like that, I would consider my guilt as the punishment I deserve...I would take it to the grave with me...but that's just me.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (11 January 2009):
 Telling him is the only way to go. You do that so your relationships is built on honesty and not having a secret hidden where you, at times feel guilty for. Because as long as your carrying this secret, the guilt grows until it's confronted.
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