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writes:Is it wrong to have 3 lads in one go???I recently split up with my fiance (about a month ago) i love him very much, i think he is my soul mate, but he has told me to move on.I was finding it hard, but all my mates and family told me i was only finding it hard because i missed having someone rather than missed my ex, so i decided to play the field.I now have 3 lads texting me wanting to meet, i know 2 of them, one being another ex, one being someone i used to work with and another lad who my mate set me up with.I do not want to get emotionally involved with anyone at the minute, so i think its best not to spend too much time with one lad? I have told each of them i do not want a relationship, i just want someont to have a laugh with a share SOME time with, and I have warned them i am certainly not interested in a sexual relationship at this time.My friends are saying what i am doing is wrong, and i should tell them about each other???Why do i need to tell them, I am dating other people, when i have told them i dont want a relationship or the ramifications of one, and they are perfectly fine with this?What do u suggest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): Just make sure that each of them knows, when its appropriate, that you are just "dating around", "getting to know people", a good one i like to say that puts people at ease is "i'm discovering what I need in a relationship". What your doing isnt wrong.... its Dating. Live it up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): Seems to me you are being very honest with these three who want to meet you, telling them you are not looking for a relationship, especially not one that includes sex at this point.
If they are fine with this, then why not go to lunch or a movie with them? Only problem would be if one of them wanted to take it further, in spite of your having made it clear you are not ready for that - especially since you have just come out of a previous relationship.
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