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writes:So basically I have a friend/ friend with benefits and we have been hanging out messing around about twice a week for the last few weeks now. Though when we first met about 3 months ago apparently I got too serious for her and we went on hiatus for about a month and a half before we started hanging out again. And I've been fine with the relationship at the fwb level. However, we spent time on Saturday night and messed around.. it was fun, then on Sunday V-day she invited me over around 2 but I couldn't make it over till about 10pm. When I got there she was really tired and lethargic and when i went to make a move she said she wasn't in the mood because she was tired. So i said whatever and we cuddled and watched some tv for a while before I left. Then! When I left I noticed a bottle of grey goose with some gone and a few beer bottles on the counter, I asked if she drank and she said yea. I didn't bother to ask with who because I didn't want to sound jealous or controlling, So I kissed her goodbye and left.My question/s is/are: For some reason I feel like she had another guy over whom she had gotten intimate with before I even got there. (I mean it is valentines day and there's a bunch of empty drinks on the counter). Is it wrong to assume that shes playing me?Since we are not exclusive it is technically not cheating, however, I would/do find it frustrating if she had been messing around with another guy at the same time. What do I do form here? Should I just be more selective about when I spend time with her so she is not all tired. Or should I switch her out for another more consistent girl? What would you guys do and how would you feel If you saw all the drinks on the counter like that?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 February 2010):
Sounds to me like you are being played. Your best bet would be to move on. It seems like it's not really going anywhere and it does sound like you're being played a bit.
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