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*erisclocks
writes:i am recently divorced from my second marriage and is it wrong for a woman to be on a sort of prowl or a look out for a man to satisfy her intimately, emotionally and privately? in this day and age society is making a big hoop to do over sex but i see it as dating......and with some "benefits" thrown in.god has given me all that i have wanted.....a ranch home, horses, a man with a nice car, a small dog, a big dog, a rich boyfriend(altho he has bigger bills), and the like. i also wanted a man 35-45 who has a big sex drive well this is how things have come to be now....all the material things are from one man who is 64 years old (who i found out later has no sex drive...he barely will even kiss me) and just recently i have found another man who supposedly fits the bill of the "wild" partner...thing....i dont know....yet? ...i ..we...have not done anything yet...altho he says i cant handle him and i say he cant handle me and that it is a real temptation in seeing what he has got to offer.....sometimes i wonder if this is the other part of the puzzle that god has given me or it is a trick from the devil...and so i am stuck between the two....what is your take on it?
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reader, terisclocks +, writes (15 December 2008):
terisclocks is verified as being by the original poster of the question....this is from teri... who wrote the problem from before..... yes thanks for all of your answers. Yes I know I am a free woman, yes I have my rights and my needs and all, but at the moment he (the rich man and non affectionate one) is letting me getting away with murder.... I pay no rent, no electricity, no phone, no water.... see I am on disability of 779 on month and bills of about 475 so where in the hell am I gonna be able to find work that I can do... take care of my delinquent daughter... and pay for everything else if I dont stay here? I gave him a kiss earlier today and he came back and said "and that is all you are gonna get" and I said the same thing back to him.In July we had sex every day for a month --- just touchy feely stuff not the f***. I got into his household by flashing him because I was desparate to find somewhere to live,.... and at that time I was in a really bad mess mentally and physically and he has helped me back on the road to being healthy but since July his affection for me has grown less and less even though I have helped out more and more. Am I doing wrong by helping him? All I want is to be loved by a man and be in serious love even if it means living here and having the sex somewheres else.(sorry a tear fell out of my eye). Now see why I got a problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): Ok that's two rules, but hopefully you get the idea...
If your embarrassed, then just be discrete.. but what do you want to be on your gravestone.. "She obeyed the rules, or she had tons of fun"
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): No way babes, we are in the 21st century and the sexual revolution came in with the 1970's.. It may be more difficult for you, because you were brought up with differnet values. But women are allowed to seek happiness and sexual/financial satisfaction the same as men. No guilt involved, you only have one life to live, and people should look after their own issues rather than looking at you...
One rule, don't hurt, because that stinks, and don't cheat cause that can destroy souls.. but otherwise, have fun. Be brave, cause many traditional people won't like it, cause it will challenge them.
PS: Condoms are a girls best friend, cause they help us to live longer....
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reader, taina1980 +, writes (15 December 2008):
why is it wrong your not attached to anyone? you said your divorced right? so rideum' sally... you don't have to answer to no 1... you are a free woman to go out & explore so if it makes you happy who cares what society says... society is not paying your bills & putting food in your mouth so society can kiss your butt... go for it! this is a question of morals... & he is with out sin can cast the first stone. don't let other ppls judgements stop you from what you want to do...
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (15 December 2008):
 My take . . . is that you are quite free to make your own decisions as a mature person with perfectly normal needs and desires as an active human being, and most importantly, as a woman.
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reader, sommerslover +, writes (15 December 2008):
 Why should it be considered wrong for you to want satisfaction and fun out of life ? As long as you are careful when having sex, there is no reason you shouldn't enjoy it. There will be those that think it is morally wrong, but that's their problem. You only live once, and life is short. I say go for all the fun you can get while you still can.
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