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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am a forty year old widow. My husband passed away in January 2014. I was very lonely. My husband's best friend, X, and his wife Y used to visit when my husband was alive and continued to do so after my husband's death. A month later Y noticed that I was very lonely. I confided in her that I missed my husband's love making.I was surprised when Y suggested that I sleep with her husband. She told me that instead of sleeping with someone who I did not know I sleep with X who was my husband's friend and who I knew well. I was hesitant as I did not want to spoil the relationship. Y told me that her husband was capable of satisfying both of us sexually.After discussing it with her husband we agreed that X would have sex with me at least twice a week. Y suggested that to get started her husband, X sleep with me that very night and that in the future X would sleep with during the day and sleep with her at night. X returned after driving Y home. X and I spent the night enjoying having sex. X had sex with me several times that night.I thoroughly enjoyed X having sex with me.Two days later X had sex with me again and we settled into a routine having sex twice a week. This went on for about three months and then X suggested that we have sex more often. When I asked how often he wanted to have sex with me he said that we have sex every day. I loved X having sex with me and told him that I was willing to let him have sex with every day but that Y should know that her husband was having sex with me every day. As it was Y agreed, saying her husband had sex with her every night and did not mind X having sex with me everyday. X usually had sex with me early in the day for well over an hour.Since January last year X has been having sex with me twice a day - in the morning and again in the afternoon.Y does not mind that her husband is having sex with me twice a day.Once a month X spends the weekend with me having sex all weekend.I enjoy having the no strings attached sex with my late husband's best friend. Some of my friends say it is wrong for me, a widow, to enjoy having sex with a married man. Is it wrong for me, a widow, to enjoy having sex with a married man?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2016): Having sex morning, afternoon and night besides maybe working for a living,X must have exceptional stamina. No wonder Y saying her husband was capable of satisfying both of you sexually. I must say It is an odd arrangement,but if you are all happy who cares.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2016): What a lot of sex! What I want to know is how this man has time to make a living! :)
You might actually be doing Y a favor-- maybe her husband wants sex too often for her...
Anyway, I think it's fine, but you might want to keep it secret.
Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2016): It may sound great now but it will prevent you from meeting someone you would like to settle with. There are going to be occasions where X and Y want their own space and you will be in the way.
It may be too early for you to consider dating after the loss of your partner but the sooner you start the better as this arrangement is not healthy.
Good Luck
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 March 2016):
 Well it was his wife's idea, and you have all agreed to this arrangement therefore I don't see that it is wrong. Me personally I wouldn't be able to do this, but if you are satisfied and you are still happy that he goes home to his wife at night then its okay, as none of you are lying. It is up to them if they want to have a open relationship, and off course it is up to you who you have sex with. However it might not work long term, as maybe some point in your future you will want more than just sex from a man.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (9 March 2016):
 "Is it wrong for me, a widow, to enjoy having sex with a married man?..."
The only answer(s) that are of ANY importance are those of the three people involved.
Good luck. (It sounds like the three of you have come to a great, mutually-satisfying arrangement....)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 March 2016):
 If Y and X and the widow are all OK with it, I don't see the problem.
If it doesn't cause problems in X and Y's marriage I don't see the problem.
However does the widow not want a man of her own? Instead of "sharing" someone else's husband?
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (9 March 2016):
The X - thing is really throwing me off here.
As long as everyone is honest and it is consensual, I don't see the problem.
I'm sure others may disagree with me. Morality can be subjective.
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