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writes:I was seeing a guy for a couple of months and really liked him although neither of us discussed how serious it was or where it was going until I brought it up last week. He said he wasnt ready for a relationship properly as hed just got out of a 6 year relationship and didnt want the pressure of being in another one so soon. I accepted this but didnt like the fact he was so close to his ex, they have a lot of mutual friends and spend a lot of time together and get on very well and shes made no secret of the fact she wants him back. After our discussion last week he called me and said he wanted to cool things between us and that he thought we shouldnt speak for a while as although he definitely wants to be with me, he doesnt want to be together just yet and didnt think it was fair to keep seeing me while he felt this way. Is it worth waiting for him or should I just move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2012): Move on. You are OPTION B.
If you were Option A as he claims, he would not be so hesitant and then hide you away.
Find an HONEST, DECENT, LOVING Man that will put you were you belong, FIRST and On High.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2012): Well i think its nice he recognises it wouldnt be right for you both to be together now. I think you should give him space. If hes meant to get back with his ex then that will happen in the next few months and you'll be glad u werent going out with him in the process. U would also be fighting with him alot in those first few months about his contact with her and face it -he wont want to hear that coz he went out with her for years so he'll defend her and hate you for thinking like that.
So give him space. Let him see how great you are doing through facebook etc. You'll be more appealing to him if your mysterious. But DO NOT put your life on hold. I would actually say forget about him for the time being and dont leave him ruin your chances with someone else new you may meet.Get out there and meet other guys!! If he does really want you , then within 6 months he should come after you. Otherwise it was just a line and you were right not to put your life on hold. Best of luck.
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