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writes: I cant seem to get over this guy I was with briefly 18 months ago. We split up coz he couldnt cope with getting hurt again - well thats what I interpreted! I started to like him so was hurt, annoyed and felt used and told him!He had said nite before, falling in love with me, I wasnt taking it serious enough, needed to be full on / had to be all or nothing - got annoyed that I didnt tell him how I felt. He was fine after that, then next morning wouldnt speak to me and when I made him, he got upset and just spoke about his ex wife going off this someone else, and losing his house and kids, etc. Since then I have been hot and cold with him, cos I was hurt and found difficult to handle, I did try and ask to meet up and talk and tell him I was fine if serious, but said yes to meeting up and never happened, so I gave up. I see him occasionally but we dont really talk, if I txt him about something, he normally replies, but I never ask about us, I so want to try again but not sure if he wants to. I know he has been hurt (I have too so did understand) but sometimes when I see him, I get the impression he still interested i.e. way he looks over. Also his mates seem to mention him to me, think trying to find out what happened, I tell them to ask him.I will see him in couple of weeks and so want to pluck up the courage to talk to him but feel bit stupid and I think coz I have been hot and cold to him, he is bit weary of me! I know its bit hard for you to answer, but am I being stupid and should give up or is it worth trying?Thanks,
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reader, amelia +, writes (30 June 2006):
No it is worth speaking to him about things, honesty is always the best policy - so pluck up the courage especially if you still want to give it another go. You have very little to lose and lots to gain. Perhaps there has been a simple misunderstanding, people do hide feelings to protect themselves - the fact that he has been hurt in the past will mean he has negative feelings and doesnt want to be hurt again. Open up to him and tell him if you want to give things another go. If he's not on for it, you can move on with your life and if he is - Great!! Good Luck, I'll have everything crossed for you
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