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36-40,
*evil Crazy
writes:Hi all,I am going to be 24 soon and still a virgin. I had two girlfriends before but didn't break through the last line of defence with any of them...however, I am in quite a complicated mood now. On one hand, I feel that I am very rare, at least for guys to still be a virgin at my age; on the other hand, the frustration is slowly creeping in 'cos I know it is almost impossible to find a virgin girl for a girlfriend these days...I hope to hear any constructive advices, especially from the female side on how to feel confident about my current situation and not let it bother me...On a side note, I am not totally ignorant about sexual matters...I do know the female anatomy, basic techniques (from books as well as internet) as well as the type of and importance of contraceptions. I am just troubled by the thought of...would my future girlfriend find it weird, bemused or uncomfortable if she knows that I don't have any practical experience? How do I allay all these fears?Thanks in advance!P.S. I do not intend to lose my virginity just to anyone, including hookers and one night stands. It will only happen if I am in a long-term, steady and meaningful relationship. Is it worth the wait?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): Well im a 22 yr. old female virgin, and I think it will definately be worth the wait. Your first time should be special and with someone you love. I plan on waiting until marriage and have an amazing boyfriend who isnt a virgin but still respects my decision, good luck to you!!
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reader, miss-innocent  +, writes (5 March 2008):
hey i have just asked a question for myself, i am a 21 yr old virgin and i would feel so much more comfortable sleeping with a virgin. i think it shows that you have a great respect for women and you should be proud. i am doubting my morals at the minute and reading stories like yours is a great help as i thought men would just laugh at me! good luck and dont compromise your morals to fit in with the crowd
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): If you were 17 then I might say you sound like the type to wait for the right situation and/or marriage.But at your age the clock is ticking. You've gotta understand that the type of girl you will probably end up with is changing right under your nose. At 16 or 18, a virgin guy is likely gonna end up with a virgin (or near-virgin) girl in a serious relationship. But in the mid-20s even those girls have almost all paired off for life and/or grown a decent list of partners. Life is not fair. Staying a virgin yourself does not earn you a virgin girl. (Haven't you heard? You're a MALE! Your 24 years of abstinence don't count. Any feelings you have about female promiscuity are rooted in "male ego" now.)
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reader, AuntieAmber  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 hey 'devil crazy' !
Stop all of this worrying right away ! your just getting yourself worked up,when it really isnt a big deal ! If anything,i think your future girlfriend that you take the next step with will be more respectfull towards you,as she will see that you have respect for women,unlike most men...
If any girl finds this weird,or awkward,then you are too good for her,and shes probably a bit of a sl*t...
sooo..dont worry,you will find the right girl (and yes there are still many female virgins out there)..just be patient,and enjoy your life and sexual experiences !
yours,aunt Amber
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): I think what you're doing is great!! There is so much pressure from society to have sex, and a lot of times it happens before people are really ready. I don't think women will find this weird at all. I have a female friend who slept with a 31 yr old virgin, and we always talked about how cool that was. Granted it is getting harder to find other virgins at that age, but it doesn't mean it's impossible. I think there are still people who share your views. And honestly, if someone does find it weird, then what does that say about them? She probably wouldn't be the type of person you wanted to be with.
I think you made a great choice, and it's definitely worth the wait. I bet a lot of people would kill for what you're going to experience someday... your first time with someone you really truly love? That's amazing. I already know a lot of people who wish they could go back in time and change their first sexual encounter... me included. Keep it up, and don't give a second thought to any mean-spirited women who would call it weird... it's not.
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