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writes:I need to do some serious soul searching. My problem is very complicated. My questions would be, is it worth it to try to continue this relationship, and if I do, how can I convince him to move out?Still stuck on the same problem unfortunately. My boyfriend of 1 yr broke up with me 6 months ago for a week, slept with his roommate, and got back with me all in a week. She's pregnant (just found out late July) and due in a couple months. The problem for me is this, I want to make it work and it seems so does he. But he doesn't plan on moving out. According to him he wants to see his daughter and spend time with her. he also doesn't want to leave his roommate hanging by stopping being her roommate. Also finances would be really tough if he got a place of his own and paid for child support. My problem is that this seems... unfair to me? I feel like I'm not as big of a priority or he wants to have his cake and it eat too. They will be a family and I'll be the girlfriend. It seems weird. Is there some argument or way I can talk to him to make him see that it's not a good idea? =( Maybe I'm selfish but it hurts me. This whole thing is a trial but I haven't ditched him for fucking the one person I asked him not too. I've tried to work with him. But letting him stay with her seems like too big of an accommodation. Letting them stay together would shred my self confidence and I'd go crazy with jealousy. Everything hurts. It's so hard... I am in love with him and have known him for years.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 August 2010):
 He violated roommate etiquette. I don't get why he has a female roommate unless he lives in a co-ed dorm. The excuse I don't want her leave her hanging by stopping being her roommate is a crock of crap, she could move home and her parents could help her. Or he could just as easy move out and find another roommate and agree to help with things for the baby so she doesn't go after him for child support. If he really wanted to make it work for you then he would find the best solution to his situation, there's options but he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Think about it if you somehow convince him to move out, then she's always going to be in his life because she's the mother of his child. There's middle ground to be found here but he's not budging and you can argue your point on it as much as you want to but he's probably not going to give in. The best thing for you is to get out of this jacked up situation, there will always be drama if you continue to stay with him..and think when the newborn comes how much time he will have for you? None, because he'll be staying with his roommate helping take care of the baby. Sorry, but get out while you still can, you're having that doubt for a reason.
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