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writes:I have been with my child's father for a year and he is a nice person he wants to buy us a home. I am 21 and he is 52 years old. He has been married twice to a puerto rican woman and I hear him always talk about people of that race. I feel like because I'm not that, that he likes them more. I always catch him glimpse at them too. Is this relationship worth being in, knowing that he likes them more. I wonder if he would marry me one day because he is older however he was married before and he has never mentioned it to me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): If you have doubts, there is probably an underling issue. Look deeper into your relationship and ask yourself. Does he provide security, Does he show am interest in your life, does he make you laugh, or go out of his way to keep you smiling. Do you feel whole when you are with him. Check that list and honestly you may see the answer is there. One thing I know is that denial is automatic, partly to protect. Just remember life is about learning, and at 21 you have so much ahead. I hope this helps. Peace
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reader, lisamcdonald15  +, writes (6 April 2009):
I can understand why you feel that he prefers puerto ricans but is it possible that he could be looking at these people because they remind him of his ex even though he might not care for her anymore. Talk to him about how you feel but make sure he knows that you're only concerned and not trying to nag. Stay calm and make sure yous are alone in a calm, quiet atmosphere when yous talk about it. good luck
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