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writes: Is it weird for my fiance to keep all of his pictures, cards, and notes from his ex-girlfriends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): I imagine their'll be heaps of cards and letters and emails and presents and all sorts of things that you'll give to him.Do you want him to destroy them all when you break-up or would you rather he kept them as a special reminder of you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): No, it is normal. My partner kept all my love letters to him from when we were 15 years old. When we got back togther 30 years later he still had them. He has his other love cards (though there were not that many) etc too. I think it is sweet and sentimental. It shows he has is romantic. Quite probably a real sweetheart you lucky thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): i don't think its weird. i do it. its just a way of remembering the good times. its not as if he wants them back, its just his past. don't worry about it, unless he's sleeping with the notes under his pillow or something! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): No it's not weird. Actually most guys do that and they just forget to throw it out once they have a new girlfriend. (some may never throw it out). A lot of people in this world are sentimental. And it has more to do with themselves than with the impact the other person still has on their lives. I know this because I used to be the same way. I used to save all this crap from ex bf's. And it had more to do with the sentimentality that I attached to stuff like that at the moment, than it had to do with how special that person still was. And it definitely had nothing to do with me still dwelling on that person.
I got over that eventually. I don't really save stuff anymore. Just memories. I just outgrew that period of needing to save things that essentially served no purpose for me anymore. But some people save EVERYTHING and always will, perhaps. It's just their personality.
In your case, I get the feeling that like many people, he too saved this stuff out of sentimentality and just hasn't gotten rid of it because he just forgot or something. But NOT because he still dwells on it.
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