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writes:I am sure you guys have heard the saying " if you cant be happy on your own you wont be happy in a relationship" in your guys opinion do you believe that this is true. If someone isn't happy with there life and who they are and they just keep jumping from relationship to relationship to fill the void of being lonely and unhappy will a relationship ever last with that person? Reply to this Question
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (9 June 2019):
 Very True...Why???
If you are not happy with your own life, how do you expect someone else to be happy with it??
The happiness in a relationship is like a glass half full. Someone can add to your half glass of happiness to make you even more happy, and you add to theirs. But if your glass is empty, the other person will keep adding until you drain them completely. They will then resent you. They will now be unhappy, while you are in a good mood. You will then be confused as to why they are always grumpy.
Then comes the arguments, complaining, mood swings, and so on. Soon you will no longer be together.
So bring your own happiness, and make sure your partner bring their own as well.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 June 2019):
 Its true. If you are only with someone to not feel lonely, then you arent really that interested in the person, and you also dont bring anything to the relationship.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 June 2019):
 No one is totally happy ALL the time. It's unrealistic.
But you have to find a kind of equilibrium within yourself. Know YOURSELF, so to speak. What you like, enjoy, dislike. What you have to offer. Spirituality for some, beliefs, faith, ideology, wishes hopes, dreams... Etc.
If you can't find that, will you be unhappy forever? That is up to you and EACH person.
It comes down to expectations as well. What do you expect from yourself? From a partner?
Are you realistic with these expectations?
I don't think ANYONE is "doomed" to jump from relationship to relationship OR be lonely forever. IT IS a choice.
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