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writes: OK so I'm in a relationship with this girl. She's beautiful, funny and in my eyes amazing. Recently I introduced her to my parents, and it didn't go well to say the least. They completely dissaprove of her. Why? Because of the age gap. I'm 19 and she's 27. Apparantly, according to my parents I'm meant to be going out with girls my own age and they call me immature for arguing about it. The worst thing is they make sly digs at her, calling her sick for dating a teen at her age. They also accuse her of using me as a rebound because she's very recently divorced. In no way does she deserve that treatment. I'm really scared she might end it because of my parents. But I do love her so much and want to be with her. She made subtle suggestions about moving in together the other day and it got me thinking seriously. Right now moving out of the family home away from my parents sounds like the best idea in the world but we've only been going out for 4 months. Is it too soon? If so what can I do to make my parents accept our relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): You want your parents to treat you as an adult. The act like one.
Tell them they can accept your relationship or they can go to hell. Because their opinion on who you date is of no relevance any longer.
Its time you started standing up to them properly. They can either treat her and yourself with the respect you deserve or they can watch you walk out of their lives forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): After four months, yes, it's entirely too soon to move in with her. I think the age difference is a little suspect, but I'm more concerned that you may, in fact, be a rebound. Even if that's the case, you have to make your own decisions and learn from your own mistakes. That said, if you want to be respected as an adult, you have to start living as an adult. The first step is to move out of your parent's home. Would it be possible for you to get your own apartment or live with roommates? Sounds like it's time for you to cut the apron strings, but leaving your parent's home to live with a significantly older woman is not the way to do it.
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