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*otallylost86
writes:Hi, I'm a 27 year old bisexual female and I've been in a relationship with my partner for 3.5years now. At the beginning the sex was great and constant however the last 12-18months has dwindled and the last 8 months non existent! She never feels in the mood there is always a excuse. I think due to this lack of intimacy my feelings for her have changed. I still love her but am not inlove any more. I also want my own family one day in the not so distant future and she doesn't. Is it time to part ways? Everything else in our relationship is great but unfortunately those are 2 major factors that are letting it down and I find myself lost and depressed.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 September 2014):
 Well,yes, it may be time to part ways.
You love this woman but are not in love with her- you feel emotionally disconnected.
And she, for whatever reason of hers ( either she is not attracted to you anymore, or she is off sex with anybody in general... but the result is the same ) won't be intimate with you and will keep you in a non sexual relationship.
Plus, your plans for the future do not coincide.
I don't know why you call it a great relationship, I mean , I am sure it is a great relationship on a friendship level, thar's what has become now. You are two people who care about each other and get along well, but not in a romantic , passionate way, on neither side. So basically you are two good FRIENDS.
maybe it0s time to aknowledge this and decide accordingly.
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reader, totallylost86 +, writes (21 September 2014):
totallylost86 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionStill need help with this one! =(
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reader, totallylost86 +, writes (3 July 2014):
totallylost86 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, I've spoken about this many times with her and always get the same reply.. She's "lost" her mojo so she says. I tell her that I'm in my prime and it's part of a healthy relationship but she just says that maybe down the track it will come back? I don't want to wait forever, I've been patient long enough. If I bring it up these days she thinks I'm just picking on her.. I know sex isn't everything in a relationship but it is a big part of one. I've said perhaps she's lost interest in the relationship in a sexual way but she says I'm being silly. I don't care if she has I'd just rather know the truth so we can move on..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2014): Tell her you two need to agree to meet in the middle. Not 7 days a week sex but at least twice. Let her know your true feelings. If she cares and want you to be happy she'll meet u halfway. Also u guys should talk. There may be a reason for her not wanting to be intimate with u.
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