A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I met my partner when I was just 18 years old we have now been together 10 years and got engaged a couple of years ago. Our relationship has always been content, hardly argued and been very comfortable. We would allow each other to go out with own friends and have individual hobbies and still spend time together.We brought a house together 5 years ago. The past 3 years I have started to question our relationship. Reason being I have been going out and having a few snogs (mainly when I have been drunk) but a couple of occasions I have found myself attracted to someone else and started to think about them all the time.I felt so bad about this that I am having a three month break from my partner to try and sort my head out. Is this the right love (all my friends are getting married and having children and I don't want this as yet). I have told him I am not sure if the love is right (he is a good looking guy and I still think he is attracted, I trust him totally and I know I wouldn't find anyone better then him) but something seems to be missing, I want to go out with him but not be attracted to others and I am afraid something could lead to an affair.At the moment I feel he deserves better then me and I just don't know what to do for the best (we did split before Xmas for a couple of months to sort my head out but now it has happened again because I snogged someone and felt bad and thought what has changed.I would love to hear if someone has been in the same situation or could give me some guidance on why this is happening?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 He sounds like he is the ALMOST right guy for you but no cigar. That's the advantage of dating different guys, you get to find out what characteristics really appeal to you and what turns you on. Your boyfriend is close but I think you need to keep looking. When it's right there are no second thoughts.
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