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writes:Hi all,I got engaged last week to my boyfriend. He is 25 years older than me. he is the kindest and sweetest guy i have ever met. I have no doubt at all about him and we are planning to get married in october.The problem is i am getting alot of dicouragements from some of my family. 80% says yes and are very happy for me.My parents are included. But the remaining think the age difference is going to be a problem and i am told i am not seeing the bigger picture.I really want to marry this guy, how do i convince the rest?Is it so strange to fall in love with someone much older? I would rather everybody is happy on my wedding day.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): its interesting to hear of all the age-differences. Makes me feel not so crazy for being in love with a guy 20 years older than me!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): The love of my life is 37, while i am 20. We have been together for 4 years. Like you - i had people saying it's ok, and others saying 'oh my god, your 16 and he is 33, it won't last, he's only after sex'. yes at 16 i was young, but i was legal. and look.. 4 years later we are still together. Mentally we are the same age i think lol he's handsome, VERY young looking and he's just perfect. Forget what anyone else tells you! go get married.. good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): Sometimes if you are very intelligent and mature, guys your own age just don't cut it! They never have for me, the love of my life is 22 years my senior and we are perfect for each other.
Tell your family to go s***w themselves you are getting married not them. THEY are not seeing the big picture.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): I don't see a problem with it because I'm 19 and my boyfreind is 40.. I agree with the 1st post. If you love each other than it doesn't matter what others think. My parents love my boyfriend.. But my brother doesn't agree with it. He's just being a big brother haha. But I don't see anything wrong with it. I'm in love and it seems like your in love!
I wish you the best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): Ignore them if it's not a problem now, it won't be in the future. Have fun and good luck with your wedding! I hope it doesn't rain.xxxx
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reader, slombardo101  +, writes (6 May 2009):
Although It Is unusual,but not uncomon. My wife Is 25 And I am 48. The problem seems to be what
"others will think". I told my wife I really did not care what "they" think because I love her not "them".
The question you should ask your self is Do you both love each other. If the answer Is yes then get married.
The other folks will come around in time once they meet him and get to know him.
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