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writes:Here we go...the ex wants to come back! There was alot of good and bad between us, but so far its been almost 2 yrs and my feelings for him still have not faded. Maybe its because my current bf just doesn't make me feel like he did, good or bad.And on top of that, my ex who I was with for 5 yrs wants me to move in with him, in the house he bought out of state, 100 miles away! I have a daughter and although if it wasn't for her I'd probably moved there along time ago. Is it right for me to remain less then happy for her sake and stay where I am? Or possible make it even more difficult for us to keep in contact with her real father, although we both might be a little happier with someone we know is so loving and does certainly offer stability. The person I am with now seems to be developing some resentment or annimosity toward my daughter, who naturally challanges me and frustrates me on a daily basis according to him but claims he can handle it. I am tired of seeing the look on his face when he sees she's home early from school or whatever. This is not how I want to live, but Im not sure moving her is right either...as a matter of fact I don't think moving is even an option.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses! Thats a good point about if he wanted us so much he would move, and last year he almost did to prove it but I wasn't ready to go from one guy to another. I wish I could go off on my own for a while to save face that I didn't go guy hopping even tho I know what I want, but my financial situation kinda forces me to choose and choose too quickly without all the info. At this point I'm not sure I trust my ex enough to make him move or move to him.
I've been a single mom for along time and my daughter isn't used to sharing me which is why I think she's acting out.
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reader, jomana  +, writes (11 May 2007):
 well it's pretty sweet of your ex boyfriend to ask you to move with him but what if that changes again and you quarrel again ,wouldn't that cause some imbalance to your daughter. she's already causing you trouble every day ,what do you expect from her when you both move ? so i believe that you should talk with your ex and try to figure out a solution that would be a compromise with both of you .and for your boyfriend , you should break up with him because he doesn't look like he likes your daughter and you still have feelings for your ex.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (11 May 2007):
 If your current relationship isn't working then you're right to consider ending it but I would strongly advise talking to your daughter and her father before making the move. Surely if your ex wants to be with you so much he would consider moving to you so your daughter neednt be uprooted from her life and father. Although I don't believe in doing anything that will make you unhappy I think kids happiness should always come first since they didn't ask to be born into this particular situation. Good luck with your decision.
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